I believe that many boys have encountered situations where she is hot and cold when getting along with a girl. It was clear that the conversation was okay yesterday, but today she ignores her, or even loses contact directly. This situation is not very pleasant.
And this kind of hot and cold may appear in any process of your relationship. The reasons why girls are hot and cold are very different. Today we will analyze why they treat you Hot and cold.
1. Too conservative about feelings
Some girls are mostly reserved and introverted due to the influence of their growing environment. , no one has taught them how to fall in love well, and the specific situations can be divided into three types.
The first type is very typical: girls have been taught from an early age not to be too proactive in love, and boys will not cherish it if they are too proactive.
Therefore, if you meet such a girl, even if she already likes you very much, she will remain aloof and wait for you to chase her. No matter how good you get along with her on a daily basis, she will never forget to show her pride. She is hot and cold because she is using poor love skills.
The second type is girls who have too low self-esteem. Their inner defenses are too heavy. Influenced by their family of origin or acquired experiences, they always feel that they are not good at anything and are not worthy of anything.
The better the boy treats her, the more she wants to escape, and she may even develop an avoidant personality. Worry that the other person doesn't really like you, but is just playing with feelings. When they are hot, they just can't help liking you. When they are cold, they feel that they are too involved and want to stay away from you.
The third type of girls’ view of love is influenced by public opinion, believing that boys should pamper girls without any bottom line.
Therefore, they often act mean and cold-faced for no apparent reason. It may be because you inadvertently said something that she doesn’t like to hear, and she thinks that boys should find out on their own and rush to coax you. Their alternations of hotness and coldness can be regarded as a kind of "training" to loosen and tighten you.
2. Scumbag
This kind of girl may have rich experience in love, but you think she is suddenly cold In fact, people don't take it seriously if you feel hot suddenly. There are two common situations.
The first type is what we often call Neptunes. They enjoy the feeling of being sought after by boys. They tease you or through their friends, maybe to relieve their boredom, or just to test their own charm.
The second type of girl is exquisitely egoistic, looking forward when using people and looking behind when not using people. She has a team of "Guanyin soldiers" gathered by her to play different roles-it will always be useful.
They always give men the illusion that "he has a chance." When she is cold to you, that is when she doesn't need you.
It is said that "Zhong Wuyan" has made many ordinary girls cry. Women are like this to men. If there is something to do, Zhong Wuyan will welcome spring. When there is nothing, this kind of girlYour sincerity must be used on tall, rich and handsome people. That is the ultimate self-interest, looking for a lifetime meal ticket.
3. Treat you as an ordinary friend
This type of girl is also more common in life, either She is really busy and has no time, but she doesn't want to give up on you. But time can always be squeezed out. In other words, we are just not good enough to be "willing to let her spend time for you."
Or she has no feelings for you at all, and only regards you as an ordinary friend, and she can still talk to you. If you don't confess, she is either really stupid or sweet, or she is deliberately pretending not to know. .
If your feelings are obvious, or you express your love directly, although she rejects you, she still considers you a friend and is too embarrassed not to reply or block you. Don't get me wrong, if you think she is hot and cold, in her heart she may never feel that she is warm to you.
To be honest, these girls have no tricks, but they hurt the most. When honest boys meet this kind of girl, they usually give up. If they think they have a chance but don't use the right method, they will be thrown in for many years in a blink of an eye. Their characteristics are as follows, so be sure to keep an eye on them:
When the topic is hot, the topic is usually about common interests, circles, etc., and they rarely get distracted by you.
The situations of these three types of girls who are hot and cold towards you are different, but boys really don’t need to feel that they are in danger everywhere, and don’t have a victim mentality, so as not to affect their own energy.
