As we all know, girls are emotionally controlled animals, and it is difficult for them to communicate when they are angry. However, some boys, after making their girlfriend angry, not only do not coax her, but also reason with her, and finally break up. So, what should you do if your girlfriend is angry and unreasonable?
First of all, let’s understand why you can’t reason with a girl when she’s angry?
1. Why you can’t reason with girls
1. It’s “emotions” that are quarreling
In the eyes of many boys: Everyone is highly educated, so when we quarrel, we should be reasonable.
But you have to know that many times when men and women talk about reason, they are actually quarreling with "emotions". Most girls are emotional. It's like saying that a person doesn't like to eat vegetables, but you keep saying that vegetables are nutritious. It's delicious. Do you think the other party can listen to it?
Therefore, when a girl is emotionally unstable, if you use her emotions to reason with her, she will not want to listen.
2. Ignoring the girl’s feelings at the time
After a dispute with a girl, especially when a girl is angry, boys are used to thinking about problems in the long term, and their inner thoughts are:
The girl is angry. It’s just a joke. We have been together for so long and we will never break up.
I was so good to her before, so this fight will not affect our relationship. What impact does it have?
But many times girls only focus on the current feelings. They think that the kindness you treated me before is all in the past tense. The key is that you treat me well now.
Especially after a girl breaks up, why is it so difficult to recover? It actually has something to do with your situation at the time. Your deformed expression, rapid and ferocious voice, and arms that are constantly waving around because of excitement are all there. Like a girl, it shows that you no longer care about her and that you are no longer the one who calls her sweetheart affectionately.
Therefore, under normal circumstances, when we say "don't reason with girls", it is basically not the truth itself. Your reason is in the eyes of girls. It will all evolve into:
(1) The truth you mentioned contains the "emotions" that girls don't like: not knowing how to compromise, not being humble, and being selfish.
(2) You are destroying the goodwill you have established with your own hands, and you are destroying your relationship.
(3) Your reasons are not from the girl’s point of view, and you no longer care about her.
Since the truth cannot be explained, many brothers will say that I can admit my mistake, but when a girl is angry, you subconsciously say "I was wrong", which will make the girl think that you are hiding something from her. If more disputes are involved in the past, girls will subconsciously ask you if you know what you are wrong about, and where you are wrong. When you can't answer, you will be labeled "perfunctory"."hat.
So, what should you do when your girlfriend is angry?
2. What should you do when your girlfriend is angry?
What should you do when you have sex with your girlfriend? During the argument, if she remains silent, you should also remain silent and give the other party time to cool down. When the other party breaks the silence and talks to you again, you have already gained a certain amount of initiative in talking to the other party at this time. After discussion, there are obviously many frameworks!
1. In-depth review and segmentation of mistakes
Pull out the mistakes you think have happened and the mistakes that have happened before and criticize them one by one. Maybe you are not completely on point, but at least you have a high ideological consciousness and a good foundation, which will make the girl feel that you value her. It even made her feel "earned"! For example:
"It's my fault, honey, I shouldn't have spoken to you loudly, especially this morning when I said good morning to you. Ann, I’ll buy you breakfast. I even forgot to say good night to you last night. Just calm down, okay?”
2. Divert girls’ attention
With girls When quarreling, it is difficult to solve the problem if you keep dwelling on the quarrel itself, so you shift the problem directly to caring about the other person's body. No one will object to others caring about their own body, and the anger will naturally flow a lot. For example: < /p>
"Baby, I was wrong, please don't be angry, okay? When you are angry, you will easily get stomachache. Seeing you feel uncomfortable makes me so sad. I bought you yogurt, for you For the sake of my own health, can you forgive me?"
When you shift your attention to the impact of an argument on the other person's "body", you are actually paying attention to the other person's feelings.
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