Maybe everyone thinks that if you like someone, you should speak out boldly, and even if you are rejected, you should let the girl know what you feel.
But what about the reality? When a boy bravely stands in front of the girl he loves and expresses his true inner thoughts to her after pursuing hard, what is the result? Of course, he is... The girl refused ruthlessly.
Why is this? Why are girls rejecting confessions?
You know, one of the most fascinating things about boys that fascinates girls is the sense of mystery.
It is precisely because of this feeling of uncertainty that girls can have the idea of ????getting to know you and slowly start to understand you. are attracted to you.
When you directly confess your love to her and tell her that you like her, and everything you do next is to win over her, then you will make her lose that feeling of uncertainty, and even make her doubt you. motives and purposes, thereby losing favor with you.
Moreover, confessing will put you directly at a lower position in your relationship. Before confessing, no matter what impression you give her, she will probably treat you as a person with a complete personality. But after confessing, you are putting yourself in a very strict examination room, accepting new scrutiny and observations from girls to see if you can meet the standards of being her boyfriend.
If you occasionally make a small mistake when you are not expressing your love, then it is no problem, it will be easily ignored or forgiven by the girl.
For example, if the chat ends in silence, then she will only think that you are not very familiar with each other and understand each other very well, so you can slowly change in the future.
But after confessing, girls will measure you based on a standard for choosing their future partner. You know, this standard is very harsh. This may cause her to focus more on your flaws.
This is one of the most serious consequences of the act of confessing.
Since you have taken the initiative to break the mystery and put love on the table, girls will inevitably have to think more carefully.
At this time, even if there is some materialism and some worship of money, it is all because you made her switch to rational thinking.
When women become rational, all your fantasies and efforts will be in vain. This is also because their positioning of you has changed:
Your advantages and value can only be As a reference, your shortcomings and character deficiencies will become her reasons for rejecting you at any time. (What's more, you didn't attract her much before you confessed your love)
Confession will also create a kind of pressure on girls. Maybe after you confess your love to a girl, the girl will show hesitation or non-resistance, but it is just a Is it a good signal?
Some boys will mistakenly take this kind of signalThe number is to encourage yourself to persist. When a girl realizes that it may cause misunderstandings, she will try her best to kill your enthusiasm and make you lose your expectations.
She does this to prevent you from misunderstanding her coldness, launching more offensives and putting more social pressure on her.
If a man confesses successfully, it means that the girl must lower some of her own principles and bottom lines, allow this man to enter her world, and even become the master of part of her life and will.
——And this man did not attract him in advance.
If even not responding may encourage men’s desire to conquer, then if a girl really doesn’t like you, her rejection must be very decisive because she doesn’t want to face more trouble.
Men and women who are attracted to each other can be together without confessing their feelings. Without "feeling" as a link, no matter how touching the confession is, it is meaningless.
Get along as friends, don’t miss the opportunity to create feelings, don’t let go of giving her a small punishment, and talk about emotional topics when it’s time. The more natural and peaceful the mentality, the better. The more likely they are to get into each other’s hearts.
