Suddenly you find that you like a good friend. If you want to pursue her, you must first understand her thoughts and see if she also likes you. If so, just confess directly. If not, you need to formulate a pursuit strategy. So what exactly should be done?
How do you pursue a good friend when you suddenly realize you like him?
1. The psychological activities of liking someone else
Do you always experience such a mental process: doubting yourself , repeatedly confirmed - confirmed, like it is correct - nervous and hesitant, afraid of failure
Even asked myself more than once:
What happened to me? I'm actually a little moved. Could it be that... I like her? No, it can't be over. I really like her. It's over. I don't have to be friends anymore. I feel strange about my behavior today. I guess it has been exposed. Why don't I just confess it directly? No, I’ve been rejected and can’t even be friends anymore. What should I do?
2. The psychology of the person being liked
If the person being liked is a boy, then I guess you haven’t changed anything. Ordinary Tiehanhan really can’t feel it.
But if the person you like is a girl, believe me, a woman’s sixth sense is sometimes like cheating, especially before love comes.
What will she be thinking at this time? She would think like this:
I have a good impression of him, but it should be the kind of good impression a friend has, right? But when I chat or hang out with him, I feel very happy. Isn’t that what falling in love is like? But it seems... missing a little heartbeat? What if... we changed after being together? By the way, what if he suddenly confesses his love to me? How should I answer? Please don't confess your feelings at this time. Please, please, please understand. In fact, both parties are trying to avoid it. So how long do you want to delay it? And as mentioned before, Tiehanhan didn’t have an antenna to receive signals at all.
What? What did you say? What if she doesn't like you? That's about steps 4, 5 and 6. Let's finish the first 1, 2, 3 steps first, shall we? When you get to that point, don’t you know? So——
3. Change the status quo
No matter what kind of friendship you had before, it is harmful to Whether they are friends, gay friends, childhood friends, best friends, or just fair-weather friends, if you want the relationship to progress, changes must occur.
The easiest way is to let her see a different side of you. Why? Of course it is to stimulate her desire to know more about you.
From time to time, you can talk about some topics that you have not talked about before, and you can talk about some embarrassing things when you were a child;
If you gave her the impression of being careless before, find an opportunity to show her Pay close attention to your workYou can also talk to her about things that make you feel lost and frustrated, and appropriately expose your vulnerable side.
This is actually creating a contrasting impression. With the contrasting impression, there is a sense of mystery. What is the mystery? It is unclear, incomprehensible, and hazy, which makes people want to...
4. Increase uniqueness
Then you must still have many opportunities to play with a group of good friends, right? At this time, do something unique only to her, implying Her: My goodness is only for you. For example:
Female: You are very good today, it’s really worth playing a script with you to kill
Male: Then try something more difficult next time? Hey, having said that, I think you are not bad either (touch your head to kill)
She will definitely change from happy to stunned to shy.
Another example:
Male: I found a script with good reviews. Should I go play it on Saturday?
Female: OK, then who else is there?
Male: You can decide the others, whatever you want, I just want to call you
Female: OK
Then, slowly add some to stand alone When you get this opportunity, it will be a matter of course. You don't have to think hard about how to express your love. Maybe she will take the initiative and come over obediently.
