Nowadays, girls’ standards for choosing a spouse are getting higher and higher. They not only require the partner to have the looks of Daniel Wu, but also the money of Wang Sicong.
Although good looks and money may be the ideal type for most girls. However, in real life, most girls are ordinary people. Prince Charming and domineering CEOs are just for plot needs. A man who is reliable, down-to-earth, and considerate may be the most realistic desire of most female compatriots when choosing a mate. So, the question is, how can I become such a man and make girls like me?
1. Express your own standards
A boy who has self-standards means that you have a certain understanding of things. Have your own judgment and principles and will not follow the crowd.
It is also a nine-year compulsory education. Most boys and girls are actually similar in terms of the most basic standards of outlook on life and money consumption.
What many boys really ignore are often the details in life.
For example, a girl asks, should we go to drink milk tea or coffee, eat hot pot or maocai, go to your house, my house or Home Inn?
Should you tell her, it doesn’t matter, it doesn’t matter, it depends. Let's do it.
It is easy for girls to worship such a boy who has no independent opinion.
A boy who is liked by girls should have his own standards, whether it is eating, dressing, sleeping, or having sex.
Can tell each other quickly and calmly:
I like hot pot, not maocai;
I like Uniqlo, not trendy brands;
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I prefer to use Durex instead of Jazzbond.
Rather than waiting for a girl to ask you, kid, do you have a lot of question marks?
There are many boys who may fall in love with a girl just around the corner.
Whether the personalities are compatible, whether the values ????are consistent, and whether the living habits are compatible, these factors will definitely not be taken into consideration at the moment when the small flame of love is ignited.
When you are carried away by love, you always put the girl you like first, and you will accept anything to get the girl to be with you.
But girls don’t like fans who always applaud them, so they have to control a certain degree of caution when getting along with each other. If the three views are inconsistent, we really can't make do with each other.
2. Become a different man around her
Then in daily life, if you are right own living arrangements and ideas. Also a plus.
Your interests, hobbies, and lifestyle habits are all silently adding points to you~
In addition, you can also try to create a little sense of mystery.
For example,
p>1. Don’t reveal too much information when chatting
As mentioned in our previous article, whether boys or girls are chatting or dating, the most important thing is to create emotional value and arouse resonance.
Then, during your chat, you can focus on maintaining a sense of mystery.
Don’t tell the other person who your name is, where you are from, and what you are doing right away?
A simple hello may be more intimate than my name is Li Xiaoming.
2. Express some unique opinions
Another very important point in maintaining a sense of mystery is to have a certain degree of "uniqueness".
Sometimes it may be just a small different voice that makes you stand out from the crowd and shine in her eyes.
For example, when girls talk about their own experiences, express more unique opinions.
And mix a little bit of your own experience into it, but be careful not to be a "drama queen".
If you have similar emotional experiences, you can create commonalities and elicit a girl’s empathy, and she will be more fond of you.
This will not make the girl feel that you are digging her out unilaterally, which will cause resentment.
Also, when we watch the same movie or discuss the same social event together, the little voice that is not just what everyone else says will effectively improve ourselves.
3. Properly create a sense of contrast
Can you imagine it?
A friend of mine, a tall northern man about 1.8 meters tall, has a small Bichon Frize.
Every day when he goes out to walk his dog, it is a strange scenery. People on the roadside look up at him and then look down at the soft and waxy ball. The rate of turning around should not be too high.
This is a kind of contrast. A tall and big boy leads a very cute dog. I don’t know how many girls’ hearts he will be melted by cuteness.
"Obviously he should be this type, but he does that..."
When a girl starts commenting on you like this, it proves that you may be attracted to her. In her place, you who don't play by the rules are often more attractive.
There are many ways to create a sense of contrast. For example, a quiet boy who usually likes to read books will occasionally go to disco. A fitness guru who usually loves sports can also write well.
Hahahaha, a contrast like this, in short, is to distinguish herself from some licking dogs and straight men around her.
3. Maintain a sense of distance, and intimate behaviors must be done at the right time
Finally, the editor Remind againa little.
You must know how to maintain a certain sense of distance. If you get too close, the sense of mystery will be lost in the process of intimacy.
To use a not-so-appropriate analogy, we have a favorite food that we originally wanted to eat day and night.
But if you eat every day, every time, you can eat it when you want to eat it, and you can eat it when you don’t want to eat it.
Within a few days, you will feel that this food is just ordinary. After eating it for a few more months, you will not even have the desire to eat it when you see this food.
Never do whatever a girl tells you to do. Be available and respond to requests.
If you do whatever a girl asks you to do, then she will think that you are a person who has no work or leisure activities and spends your days lazily and in vain, just waiting for her to call you.
In this situation, in the eyes of girls, you are no different from a tool.
The first and second time she will thank you for thinking you are good. After many times, your dedication to her will become a matter of course.
Nowadays, many people are saying that to chase girls, you must first attract them. How to attract them? You must show your social value in your circle of friends and learn to package yourself.
I want to show off my afternoon tea at the Internet celebrity hotel, show off my fitness, and show off my work.
But if you take a closer look, these so-called social routines seem to be most commonly used by micro-business.
Actually, a simple insight into life is better than these pictures with beauty filters: It’s useless for you to show off your food, your clothes, your hotel, etc. What does she think of you as a person? People still know nothing.
The three points mentioned above, whether it is to show your own standards! Or to be a different man around her! Or to maintain a sense of distance!
In fact, they are showing yourself. social value.
Just telling her what kind of person I am.
Therefore, a person with a clear attitude, thoughts and ideas is also a high-value person, and it is very easy to get along with him.
After she adds you on WeChat, she will soon be able to understand your views and attitude from your chat.
You can easily know what kind of person you are and whether there is any resonance between you.
Let her see your most authentic thoughts and opinions. If she agrees with you, she will naturally like you.
