A long-term relationship requires us to constantly summarize the problems that occurred in previous relationships, then improve them, and finally form our own outlook on love. Many people find it difficult to fall in love, let alone summarize it, so today as someone who has been through it, I will share with you some experience in making a relationship last longer.
1. Not too high expectations
Seeing this, some people may retort, no What kind of love is there if you expect results? Isn’t the purpose of love just to get married?
But in fact, love is like many things, the higher the expectations, the faster the disappointment. Because you care too much, you are often cautious in love. They even end up accommodating each other endlessly, blindly treating each other well, and finally become a licker.
And since I regard this relationship as a treasure, I definitely hope that the other person will treat it as a treasure as well. Once the other person does not regard it as the first priority, you will feel that the other person does not love you enough or does not love you. Eventually, you feel like you’ve given too much and are tired. The other person thinks you ask too much and are tired. This relationship collapsed because of "tiredness".
You said, if you have a normal mentality, don’t worry about the illusory future, and love well and earnestly, now, will your relationship be more comfortable and longer?
In fact, We should hold the mentality that we may not succeed, hold the mentality of learning, and love well. In the process of two people getting along, if they are compatible, they will try to succeed. If they are not compatible, there is no need to force it. There are many things that we have to work hard for. If the outcome is beyond our control, we should enjoy the experience.
2. Don’t overemphasize giving
Many people have misunderstandings about feelings and always like to materialize them. . It's not like buying groceries. No matter how much I give you, you have to give me groceries of equal value. Emotions are free, she can like you or she can dislike you.
So, whether you like her has nothing to do with whether she likes you. When pursuing, don't feel that you have spent a lot of effort and money, but if she is indifferent, you will feel wronged and that she is inhumane.
In fact, these are completely personal choices, don’t move yourself. If you think your love is worth doing, just do it. When you feel that you have reached the limit of your current love for her, stop.
Never expect anything or emphasize anything, as this will only make the other party think you are stupid. Then, I said to you casually, I didn’t ask you to do this.
When you are in love, you must not have the thought that you pay more and the other person pays less. When these signs begin to appear in your head, your relationship becomes unbalanced in your heart.
Over time, it will be deeply ingrained in your heart, and you will start to be negative and complain. In this state, relationships will inevitably have cracks. In fact, the other party has not changed at all, it is just your own morbid psychology.
Again, when you decide to give, you should not care about the results, otherwise you should immediately stop giving that you think is "more than her".
