It is said that there is a three-year generation gap. So if there is an age difference of 8 years, wouldn’t it be almost a generation gap of 3 years? Can a marriage with an 8-year age difference last long?
1. The 8-year age difference is the closest in mental age
Generally speaking, everyone will definitely feel that men and women with a small age gap have similar experiences, and even more so It is easy to have common topics, so that we can get along more easily.
But psychology believes that it is most reasonable for the actual age gap between husband and wife to remain at 5-8 years old, that is, men are 5-8 years older than women, and the optimal age gap for marriage is 8 years old. Why do you say that?
There is a saying that women generally mature earlier than men, so many girls think that men of the same age are naive. In addition, women are more perceptual and emotional and can easily grasp details. When men and women of the same age get along, men may not understand women's little emotions very well and fail to enlighten them in time, which leads to more and more conflicts in subsequent communication and the inability to grow together.
For couples with an 8-year age difference in the best age for marriage, if a man is 8 years older than a woman, his mental age will be more mature, and he will be more understanding of small emotions and how to deal with these problems. It will be very comfortable when you are together and will not cause any irreconcilable conflicts in the marriage, thus making the marriage last longer. For girls, there is passion with young people, but there are more conflicts; getting along with a more mature partner will reduce many unnecessary disputes in life, which is extremely beneficial to the stability and harmony of the relationship.
2. Can bring a sense of security to the other party
Women want a sense of security, in addition to feelings, To a large extent, it comes from the man’s economic conditions. Otherwise, how can we talk about relationships if there is no bread? The age gap is not big in the coming year, and everyone’s economy is equal. Girls will feel that men should make money to support the family, so it is easy to think that boys earn Not much, there are often disputes. For those couples with an age difference of 5-8 years, it can not only bring a sense of security to each other on a psychological level, but also provide sufficient protection for each other on a material and economic level.
After all, in about 8 years and many years of hard work, a certain material foundation has been accumulated, which can provide economic security for the family. . If the husband is older than herself and has a certain financial foundation, it can greatly reduce the pressure on women. Therefore, it is ideal for the husband to be 5-8 years older than his wife.
Of course, not all couples with an 8-year age difference get together. There are many reasons for the breakup. Maybe their love could not be stopped from the beginning and they chose to be together. Later, they found out that they were not suitable and broke up; it may also be the parents of both parties.I objected, feeling that the age difference between them was inappropriate and unhappy, so they chose to break up under tremendous pressure... In fact, this may be beneficial to both parties.
