When you are with a girl, you definitely can’t just rely on that vague feeling to support you. In the end, you have to return to reality and consider whether you are really suitable to be together.
Next, the editor will list 3 questions for you. If you want to be with a girl seriously, you must understand these questions clearly.
1. Concept of consumption
All aspects of life will eventually test your concept of consumption. Small spending habits can determine to a large extent whether you can live in harmony.
For example, when you go out to play together, you can leave the choice of restaurant to her and see her selection criteria.
On the choice of transportation, you can also ask her opinion to see if she is used to taking a taxi or choose other methods.
Or by observing her circle of friends, daily consumption, etc., you can actually see a person's consumption habits.
Of course I don’t want you to ask directly, we can just make some insinuations.
For example:
Male: I have gained a lot of weight from eating takeout every day. Why do you always look so thin? What’s the secret?
Female: Takeaway is too greasy, so I bring my own food when I have time, which is healthy and saves money.
Male: Then you must be good at cooking.
Female: It’s okay, just eat it by yourself and cook it blindly.
Male: Haha, I’m so humble. What food are you going to bring tomorrow?
From such a common conversation, wouldn’t it be possible to get some useful information.
She cooks her own meals for health reasons, but cooking is troublesome after all. It seems that she is still a very diligent and thrifty girl.
2. Self-positioning
Each of us is the same, but the criteria for selecting objects are different. , just because we have different positions on ourselves.
Maybe you think that with a monthly income of 20,000 yuan and a height of 1.7cm, you are already in relatively good condition among boys. The person you match must have a monthly salary of more than 10,000 yuan, a height of 1.6cm, and average-to-upper-class looks.
There are some girls who have a monthly salary of 3,000 yuan, but they still think that a boy who earns 10,000 yuan a month is poor. Where do you think we can reason?
So, this It's better for you two to talk things over between yourselves.
If you have fallen in love with someone, do you need to understand what they think?
For example, you can find out like this:
"You are so beautiful, you must have very high requirements for your boyfriend, right?"
(Most girls will refute such speculation,Then state her standards. )
"Do girls like tall, rich and handsome people? Do we still have a chance?"
(Everyone likes tall, rich and handsome people, but do you have a chance? Well, you’ll know how the girl responds)
“I like a girl, but I’m afraid I’m not good enough for her, so I don’t know if I should let her know.”
(She will definitely ask you curiously what kind of girl you are. If you describe it according to her standards, you will get the answer you want.)
3. Future planning
You have to talk about what kind of life you want to live in the future, including your career goals, choice of city to settle in, plans for relationships, etc. . Some boys may say, isn’t it a bit early to talk about this before we’re even together? It’s not easy to talk.
Then think about it, do you want to get hurt again after being together, or do you want to figure out the situation as soon as possible and then decide whether to pursue it?
In fact, there is nothing to ask. , the key is to find the right time.
For example, when talking about work, you can take the opportunity to ask:
Male: Hey, what is your main job now?
Female: Online education, mainly responsible for content control.
Male: Wow, the online education industry is very popular now. There are a lot of opportunities in Beijing, so are you planning to develop in Beijing?
Female: Well, maybe, but I have no plans to leave yet.
Male: Beijing is indeed suitable for struggle. I also like it here very much, but I can’t stay. I have been here for 5 years, maybe I will go back in two years.
Female: Yeah, it’s really difficult to stay in Beijing.
Male: Yes, if you work hard, you might have a chance to stay.
Female: Haha, no, I should choose a city like XXX to settle down.
As we chatted slowly, the answer came out.
