When chasing a girl, saying good night every day is basically a routine operation for every boy, but not all girls, or in other words, the other party will reply every time they say good night. Boys also often encounter girls who say good night but do not respond. Reply situation. Then why did the girl not reply, and what should I do in this case?
1. Why did the boy say Good night, girls won’t reply
Under normal circumstances, if a boy takes the initiative to say good night to a girl, but the girl doesn’t reply, it’s either because she fell asleep while chatting, or she’s too lazy to reply, or she doesn’t reply on purpose. I want to whet your appetite.
If it is the first situation, I believe the girl will explain it to you the next day. I won’t go into details here. I will mainly talk about the latter two situations here.
In fact, when these two situations occur, it may be that you are not attractive enough. Although you are chasing her at this time, in her heart, you are just a dispensable ordinary friend. That’s all. It may also be because you are usually too attentive to her, which exposes your need for her, and later makes her lose interest in you, and wants to develop you into a spare tire to whet your appetite. After all, things that are too easy to obtain are difficult to cherish. So this is where we analyze the reasons and then talk about what to do.
2. What should you do if a boy says good night and a girl doesn’t reply?
You should grasp the problem first. The root cause is the lack of attraction. You need to establish attraction, deepen and consolidate your attraction. Reflect on the root cause of the woman not replying to your messages, and then distance yourself, don't be so attentive, and look for the other person less. Then use targeted methods to build attraction based on how long you've known the girl.
1. You have not known a girl for a long time
If you have not known a girl for a long time and have relatively few interactions in life, then the girl will not reply to your "good night" It's easy for you to happen, so all you have to do is go to her again every three to five days and start by establishing the most basic attraction.
You can start the topic based on the girl’s hobbies and daily work, such as a certain celebrity you both like, a certain attraction you have visited, a certain game you have played, and a certain book you have read. , majors you have studied, etc. will expand the chat scene, deepen your chat content, and increase mutual emotional resonance, because when your life experience and value orientation are the same, you will establish a connection and it will be easy to get closer.
2. You have known a girl for a while
When you have known a girl for a while, you The intersection between them is gradually increasing, so if a girl doesn't reply to your "good night", it may be because you areExposing your needs too much in front of girls will make them feel pressured.
What you need to do is to re-examine your relationship and control your own neediness. If it is not just because of the exposed neediness, you can ask her friends or besties side by side, and then don’t rush to find her. Girls show sincerity, but it takes a certain amount of time to make changes.
When chatting with girls, reduce the frequency of chatting, and don’t keep chatting around one topic. Learn to observe the core needs of girls (emotional comfort, security, vanity, care and concern). etc.), follow these to mobilize girls' emotions and interests, sublimate and consolidate attraction.
3. You are already close to girls
When your relationship with girls is close enough, The relationship can be confirmed in the last step, so if a girl doesn't reply to you when you say "good night", it may be that you have not met the girl's standards in some aspects, and the girl is testing you.
What you need to do at this time is to take the initiative to close the relationship. There are many standards for girls to test a boy, such as: whether he is motivated, whether he is clean and tidy, whether he has a sense of responsibility, whether he is optimistic, etc. , compare your shortcomings and make more corrections.
