It would be unrealistic to define a soul mate by two people who are completely compatible with each other, because it is so unrealistic to find someone who completely matches you in this world. Even if you are very compatible now, as time goes by, the relationship between you will become more and more unrealistic. Various differences and contradictions will also arise. Therefore, according to the editor's opinion, the so-called soul mate means that two people can reach a consensus in most situations. Even if there are occasional conflicts, both parties can usually meet their own needs.
So how do you test whether a person is your soul mate? Below, I have sorted out one Soulmate test list, if you can reach a consensus on more than 80% of these conceptual issues, even if there is a conflict with the remaining 20%, you can be sure that the other person is your soulmate.
1. Do you have enough financial resources to ensure the smooth operation of the relationship and the quality of life expected by both parties?
2. Can the two of you plan for the future? Reach an agreement and unity? If you may face a long distance, how long are you willing to wait for each other?
3. What are the insurmountable bottom-line issues in the relationship between the two parties? (Once it happens, the partner will leave without mercy Yourself)
4. Is the other person really the person you want to work with for the rest of your life? Do you have the confidence and responsibility to play the role of future husband and wife, children and parents?
5. To what extent is the social transparency of both parties acceptable? And what aspects are each other’s privacy space?
< p> 6. Do both parties have a history of serious mental illness in the past? Or have they experienced major trauma in terms of emotions or physical functions? Is there a family history of hereditary disease? If so, can both parties accept it?</ p>7. Are there any problems left over from history in the past relationships between the two parties? Are each other really satisfied with their partners? Is there something unspeakable that you have always hated but have no chance to communicate with your partner?</ p>
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8. Can both parties agree on the concept of saving? Who holds the financial power? If it is joint account management, each person can How much money should be saved in the joint account every month? How much free funds are left for each person?
9. Can you agree on the concept of fertility? Yes or no? If so, how many? ?Whose surname is it? Should both parties take care of it together, or should one of the elders take care of it?
10. Have the original families of both parties caused significant psychological trauma to each other? (such as domestic violence, parents) Infidelity, major events, etc.) If so, have both parties healed? Or is the other party willing to reconcile?
11. Is the nature of the work of two people acceptable to each other? Who is the domestic leader and who is the external leader? Or whose family burden is heavier and whose financial pressure is greater?
12. Have the two parties lived together for a period of time? Are there irreconcilable conflicts in each other’s living habits and attitudes?
13. Do both parties have common topics or common interests? ?At the same time, do both parties have their own independent cave space in the relationship?
14. Do the two people have the same views on marriage and love? Is it non-marriageism, flash marriageism, or a normal marriage model? If there is marriage What is the expected age of marriage between the two parties?
15. Do two people, or even their respective families, agree on the bride price and dowry? The so-called dowry and betrothal gift are used in small families.
16. Do both elderly people have the ability to support themselves independently? Which elderly person needs additional subsidies and care? If so, What is the maximum amount of funds that two people can use to support the elderly?
17. What are the unspoken hobbies of both parties? Can they be honest about their shortcomings and take the initiative to tell their partners about the corners of their hearts? ?
18. Is it necessary to own a house to get married? If it is necessary, what are the plans of both parties for the real estate? If it is not necessary at the time of marriage, at what stage after marriage is it necessary?
< p> 19. Do the two parties have equal say in the relationship? Will the parents of both parties interfere with the decisions made by the two people? Or is there a "mama's boy/girl" personality preference between them?20. If an unexpected misfortune befalls one of the parties, to what extent can the partner stay with him? And under what emergency circumstances, does the partner have the right to leave you and start a new life?
