Some people fall in love and break up as time goes by, because as time goes by they find it boring, no feeling, and no freshness. As a result, the relationship from then on became an entanglement between two people, and there was no novelty between them.
What is the sense of freshness?
The [expectation] we have in our hearts when facing things together And [Passion]!
Freshness is curiosity. When you don’t know much about the person you like, you will become curious, which is freshness, and you will want to know everything about him or her.
How long can the blushing and heartbeating stage of love last? Some people say 8 months, some say 10 months. Scientific data shows that the chemical reaction of love will not last longer than 3 Year. (I think this period is the so-called freshness)
How to maintain freshness in love
1. Don’t repeat the “routine” day after day.
After two people have been together for a long time, they will be very familiar with each other’s styles and habits. However, if everything is too familiar, what else do you think is new? To illustrate with an analogy, for example, if you almost go to a restaurant to eat, it feels very meaningful at first, but after a long time it will become boring, then you should change to another restaurant appropriately. No matter how delicious the food is, it will become tasteless after a long time.
2. Always retain your own personality
We often hear the sentence, I love you, and I am willing to change everything about myself for you. But when we love, when we change everything about ourselves for love, when we become the image that the other person wants to see, you find that you are exhausted, and the other person has already lost all love for you.
3. Don’t rely too much on the other person
Dependence in life and emotional dependence are enough to make one person tired and tired of another person. When in love, men and women in love will say this to you: I like to see you relying on me, so that I will have a strong desire to protect you. This sentence is true, but it also has a shelf life. When you really rely on the other person for everything, you become a burden to the other person.
4. Virtual reality
Those who are married pretend not to be married, as if they are still in love; Pretending not to be in love, it's like they are still in the ambiguous stage. You can also combine it through role-play to create more freshness.
5. Continuous learning
The loss of freshness is essentially a person’s weakness in background or a person’s lack of interpretation ability.trap. Look at each other with new eyes, break your own prejudices, and you can see the other person in a completely different light. Through continuous learning, use new knowledge or skills to improve yourself, build a richer self, and make yourself always full of unknowns.
6. Maintain boundaries
Love needs space, and distance can produce beauty. You will get bored if you eat too much of delicious food. Moderate restraint can maintain your taste buds for a long time. The loss of freshness is sometimes caused by the loss of boundaries.
There are many ways to inject freshness into love. The key is not what freshness is, nor how to inject freshness, but how you understand love and how to invest in love.
If you yourself feel that love is beginning to be boring, then no matter how many ways you inject freshness into it, it will be useless.
