Most boys tend to fall into a misunderstanding when chasing a girl they like, thinking that as long as they are nice to her, they can win her favor. But in fact, girls are not chased like this, but attracted. So how can it be easier to succeed in chasing a girl you like?
How to be more successful in chasing a girl you like?
1. Build your own image and convey the good side
If you want to attract girls, let girls know about you If you have a good impression, at least it will pass at first sight. If you look sloppy and unkempt, women will frown when they look at you. Although a good image cannot directly make a woman like you, it can at least give her a good first impression. Only when girls are not disgusted with your appearance will they be motivated to get to know you further.
Don’t be stupid enough to show your shortcomings when you first meet a girl. If you have any shortcomings, you can wait until the girl gets to know you comprehensively before telling her. If you show your shortcomings when you first meet someone, a woman will think that this is you, a worthless you, and will completely deny you. When you first meet a girl, you should show more of your sunny, positive and advantageous side.
2. Show value and convey attraction
To make girls feel for us, we need to convey enough Much value. Finding high value and aligning with high value are the underlying driving forces of human behavior. Having value makes you feel good, losing value makes you feel bad. Value is always bound to emotions, driving human action patterns and affecting human emotional circuits.
The goddess you like actually has high reproductive value. Youth and beauty are visual clues to good health and good DNA. By forming an alliance with her, your offspring will be healthier and more competitive in mate selection, which is high value. Therefore, if your favorite goddess expresses her affection for you, it will make you feel like a spring breeze, because you have gained the opportunity to form a high-value alliance; being rejected by your favorite goddess will make you feel like you have fallen into an ice cave. The reason is that the appearance of value changes your emotion, which is the so-called feeling.
Therefore, if we want a girl to have feelings for us, we need to make her feel your value. Different from the reproductive value of women, the main value of men in choosing a mate is social value, that is, survival value. Because value changes a woman's mood and makes her feel attracted.
Common survival values ??include: economic strength, social status, life value, rich experience, confidence and courage. Of course, emotional value is also a kind of value.
3. Warm up the relationship and invest emotionally
Simple attraction is not enough. When girls are attracted to us , the next step is to warm up the relationship. For example, some celebritiesIt can make women crazy about each other, but women will not really be stars together. The reason is that there is only attraction but no warming.
In addition, attraction is just an emotion, and human emotions always rise and fall. After a girl's mood drops, she will forget how she felt and what her emotions were at that time. After the girl's emotions disappear, the relationship will not heat up. For this reason, after establishing attraction, you must find ways to warm up the relationship with the girl. This is the reason why many friends fall into the friendship zone with girls.
In a relationship, the more a person invests in another person, the more deeply he or she loves the other person. The reason is that the brain always cherishes the things that have been invested. Human beings will never cherish things that are obtained lightly. To do this, we need to learn to guide the other party to invest in you. For example, let her say good morning to you, help you choose clothes, cook you a delicious meal, etc.
