With the development of society, a new way of dating is now popular - online dating. Online dating mainly communicates with each other through dating websites and the mainstream chat software WeChat. It is an alternative model in which both parties think they are familiar with each other and then meet in private. However, many people currently have a doubt: Should online blind dates have a good chat before meeting each other? The following is an analysis from two aspects.
1. Reasons why online blind dates should meet first
Online blind dates should What is the reason for meeting in person first? Some boys report that no matter how happily they chat with girls online, they don’t know what to say when they meet. Why? It must be because they are obsessed with the other person's appearance, height, weight, etc., as well as how they dress. Many of these cannot be clearly felt through chatting on WeChat, and can only be experienced in person. So it's better to meet first so as not to waste each other's time.
You must know that whether you are a boy or a girl, eye contact is very important. When we chat with girls on WeChat, we type them, and the tone of voice when typing is different from when we talk in daily interactions. It is easy for all kinds of weird misunderstandings to occur. The goal of chatting on WeChat is also to make the other person feel like they want to meet you in person, so it’s better to be more direct. Time is precious. If you chat on WeChat for many days, everyone will be young. Don’t waste time. Besides, blind dates are for falling in love and getting married. They are all aimed at live, warm real-life contact. The spiritual communication on WeChat is too ethereal, so we should leave it behind.
Moreover, no matter how much we chat on WeChat, it is not as effective as meeting in person. Words can be modified, no matter how beautiful the words are, it is not reality. You will never know the beauty, ugliness, good and evil of someone without meeting them in person. If you want to understand a person from his words, you are either too naive or too stupid. No matter how long you chat on WeChat, she may still be the person you imagined. If you don't pay attention, she will die! In this case, it is better to never meet and just be each other's listeners. People's hearts are so far apart that they may not be able to tell the difference even when they meet, let alone when they are separated by a screen. WeChat can only be used as an auxiliary tool, do not regard it as the main blind date tool.
2. Reasons why online blind daters should chat well before meeting again
Living in the fast-paced Internet era, WeChat has given us a lot of conveniences. We can first observe each other's circle of friends through WeChat and see each other's photos and lifestyle. Taste: If you feel that the offer is not of the same level as you or does not match your three views, you can politely refuse. The expenses for meeting and treating guests to dinner and watching movies are not small. They are all part-time workers who do not have that much money to spend. If the money is spent on a girl who has results, it will definitely be worth it, but if the money is spent on no results, it will not be enough after a year. A small burden. I amA buddy said that he spent 40,000 to 50,000 yuan on blind dates and dinners in a year, but in the end he didn't even get a hand. How could an ordinary working man afford such a prodigal waste?
Secondly, many people are single because of their introverted personality. It was particularly awkward when two complete strangers met each other for the first time. They didn't know what to talk about, and they definitely disliked each other. Chatting on WeChat first allows you to get to know each other generally, and then when you meet for dinner, everyone can talk about each other so that it won't be so awkward. Maybe sometimes fate arrives and is missed by the shyness of the first time. It is also a good choice to get to know each other through WeChat first. You can chat on WeChat to get to know each other's interests, hobbies and outlook on life, and then learn about each other's personal information from the matchmaker, such as height, appearance, work and family conditions. If you think they are good, you can meet in the next step. This can also save some precious time. Now everyone is busy making money.
Should you chat well before meeting in an online blind date? In any case, everyone's situation is different. Whether you choose to meet first or chat first depends on your own situation and conditions. It is of course important to leave a good impression on the other party during the online blind date meeting and chatting, but it does not rule out the situation that you are not satisfied with the other party, so it is best to let nature take its course.
