Question:
Hello, tutor, I met a girl I liked on the road a few days ago. After a long psychological struggle, I finally got up the courage to go to WeChat. However, in Plus WeChat, when I took the initiative to chat with her, she seemed unusually aloof. At first, she would reply to my messages, although it was only one or two words, but after a few days, I sent her many messages. She simply stopped replying to the message. After this happened, I studied for a long time, looked at her WeChat Moments and photo albums, and I only found that she seemed to be playing PlayerUnknown's Battlegrounds. How should I chat with such a cold girl to make her enthusiastic?
Answer:
If you want to talk coolly with a girl and make her enthusiastic, then you must know why she is so cool towards you, because after all, no one is born cold. There are several reasons why she is so cold towards you:
1. Girls have good looks, but she just has no interest in you, or there may be no shortage of suitors from others. So she doesn't bother to talk to you.
2. The way you chat is wrong. We all know that girls are still a vulnerable group in society. Although the country advocates equality between men and women, you have to admit that women’s ability to survive is not as good as men, so A girl should use her cold appearance to drive away men who have ill intentions towards her.
The first solution is to boil the frog in warm water, but you cannot lower yourself, let alone be a pursuer. For example, just comment on Moments from time to time.
The key is that she plays Honor of Kings! She will definitely get bored when playing alone, so as long as she has played with you once, and you happen to be very good, are you afraid that she will refuse to play with her next time? Really To be honest, I have been ranked as the king for several consecutive seasons!
And you are all learning to draw! You can take the opportunity to discuss drawings. For example, ask her to comment on your latest drawing and share your thoughts. , Which school should I go to? What are the characteristics of which art academy? Balabala, brag, if you are good at painting and have superb skills, are you afraid that you will not be attracted?
In short, you either have good looks or good looks. If you have strength, you don’t have anything, and you don’t work hard, no matter how good your chatting skills are, it’s useless, and no matter how good your routine is, it’s just a cold show.
To solve this second problem, first of all, make it clear why you are chatting with girls?
Most boys are always "chatting" with the girls they like unconsciously. ", but I didn't realize it at all. This makes it very easy to be disliked by the girl I like.
In fact, no girl likes to find someone to chat with all day long, and you and she have just met, unless you look very much like Peng Yuyan. And when they have time to chat, they usually choose to go shopping for clothes or watch TV series. Therefore, you need to be clear about chatting with the girl you like.The purpose is: to warm up the relationship (for example, asking a girl out on a date through chatting, making her impressed by you through chatting, and you directly becoming a couple through chatting, etc.). After all, the girl you have always wanted to chat with is usually the one who makes you want to talk. The lower body cannot be calm, so don’t chat! Don’t chat! Don’t chat!
And in the process of chatting with girls, quickly Finding topics that girls are interested in is a very important skill. How to quickly find the topic she is interested in? This requires you to focus on the girl first, praise her or ask her a question about her. Through this topic, other branch topics can be extended infinitely. Keep the conversation open. That is to say, add different keywords to the main topic, each keyword can be extended to another topic, and try to control the direction of the topic extension in the field you are good at.
For example, when you provide a topic to talk about yourself, a girl says "haha" to you in a nonchalant manner. At this time, you have to put the topic on her and say to her, "I looked at your photo and I think you are so young. You only look about 19 years old." Girls will usually respond to this kind of question and tell you her truth. Age, at this time you can add many keywords in the conversation that can extend the topic.
For example, when a girl tells you her true age, you can say, "I was studying abroad at your age, and it was very hard. In addition to going to class every day, I had to wait, bartend, and occasionally work I also worked as a tour guide for domestic tourists and traveled all over Australia." This conversation includes: classes, waiters, age, foreign countries, bartending, traveling, and Australia. If it includes topics that girls are interested in, Girls will get involved and interact with you.
