If you observe carefully, you will find that more and more boys are not willing to chase girls. Is it because the game is not fun, or is being single not exciting enough, and you need to find someone to take care of you? Of course, these are only superficial reasons. In fact, many people are unaware of the deeper issues. Let’s analyze why boys don’t pursue girls anymore?
1. The rewards of chasing girls cannot be measured
Emotions are not rational. Even if you have sufficient evidence to prove that you are not wrong, you can still be forced to judge you as wrong, and you are not There is room for reasoning. How many more charges can be added to you, who can withstand it? It's not that boys nowadays are unwilling to pursue girls, but they are unable to rationally judge the benefits of love, and they are also unable to measure whether the cost they pay can be exchanged for the value they deserve.
Your boss asks you to work overtime for free, but you definitely won’t do it. Isn’t this a clear sign of cheating? Who wants to do it? But when you chase girls, you don’t know whether it’s okay or not. You don’t have a standard to judge whether the expense is reasonable. Some people don't spend money and girls chase them after them. Some people pay a lot, and in the end they can't even hold hands and can only be good friends. How do you judge? Is this behavior justified?
2. The experience of chasing girls is terrible
In fact, most boys are unwilling to chase girls, and it is not because they are entangled. It’s not about the money and energy, it’s about the bad experience.
Don’t say anything else. How can a single boy live? Just the Spring Festival, Labor Day, National Day, Qingming Festival, and Mid-Autumn Festival, right?
What festivals do boys in love celebrate? In addition to the usual holidays, there are also Women's Day, Christmas, Valentine's Day, Chinese Valentine's Day, Halloween, birthdays, anniversaries, and Children's Day.
If the girl you meet knows how to be grateful, is willing to give together, and cherish the relationship with each other, will the boy be unwilling to give in this kind of relationship? He must be so happy that he can fly, right? Why? Because of happiness.
If the girl you meet is not grateful, she still thinks that the boy should pay. Not to mention the burning expenses of eating and giving gifts during so many festivals, many of us men are willing to sacrifice their lives for love. It doesn’t matter if we skip breakfast and eat less.
But the most unbearable thing is that the girls dislike you for the things you frugally give away. I worked overtime until my scalp was numb and I didn't have the energy to pick out gifts and missed giving them once or twice. The girl exploded and started making excuses, calling herself a scumbag. I was already in a bad mood and had to coax the princess. In the process of coaxing you to explain and reason, the princess becomes even more angry. In the end, the dirty water jar fell into the latrine, and the fuss became more and more smelly.
All my efforts were in vain, and I was called a scumbag. It’s scary just thinking about it, okay.
3. If boys don’t chase, they haven’t met anyone worth it.
Many boys are unwilling to chase girls. It's because I have ideas and want to waitWait until a girl worth chasing comes along and then chase her. So here’s the question: What kind of girl is worth pursuing?
Let me ask you the following three types of girls, which one do you prefer as your wife?
The first type is to only care about one's own interests and ignore matters that have nothing to do with oneself. If you invite her to dinner, she will be there immediately. If you ask her to invite you to dinner, goodbye. You can help her with work issues, but you can't ask her to help you with things that are easy to do. Her money is hers, your money is hers.
The second type will care about your feelings and be willing to consider you. If you treat her to a meal, she will take it upon herself to treat you to a movie, or help you take a taxi to take you home. If you help her deal with work problems, she will order you afternoon tea and not let your help go in vain. Your money is your money, and her money is her money, but when buying expensive items, we will discuss it with you.
The third type will care about your feelings, be willing to think about you, and be willing to participate in your life. If you invite her to dinner, she will also treat you to dinner, and she won't care who is right or wrong. You help her with her work, and you don't get a reward, but she's also happy to help you handle your problems, and she doesn't need a reward from you. You feel safe handing the money to her, but she won't use it arbitrarily, she will tell you everything she buys, and you can get the money back at any time.
I believe that most boys will definitely take the initiative when they encounter the second or third type. Even if I fail to chase a girl in the end, I would rather not make any noise or feel like I have met a liar.
