Girls are like cats, very sensitive, so if you are not careful when chatting with them, you will step into a minefield and your impression in her heart will plummet.
Today, the editor will talk to you about what not to do if you want to chat with girls and leave a good impression.
1. Use language to force girls
Due to the influence of the environment, most boys now are relatively straight. When chatting with girls, it often happens that they use language to force girls. I think it's the same as doing business. The two parties first discuss the conditions. If you think the conditions are suitable, then draw up a contract, sign it, shake hands, OK, everything will be fine!
Don't think that as long as you have a good start with the girl, , thinking that her relationship with him was a sure thing.
With this kind of preconceived mentality, as long as a girl loses interest in you and becomes a little colder for one reason or another, her mentality will be unbalanced and she can't stand this feeling of loss. Some people will simply Put the words on the "negotiation table" and have a frank talk with the girl. If you can reach an agreement, continue, if you can't reach an agreement, break up.
However, this approach is actually using language to force girls. In the eyes of girls, this is quite aggressive and even makes girls very scared, so once you talk to her with this attitude , your relationship is destined to end here.
For example, the following conversation——
Man: "Why are you always incompatible with me?" That's right. If you have a boyfriend, just tell me and I won't bother you." (It's an aggressive tone, giving girls a bad impression)
Girl: "I don't have that. I don’t need to lie to you.”
Male: “Does that mean you don’t want to talk about it?” (The self-righteous idea of ????the girl makes the girl speechless)
Female : "..."
Male: "Here you go again, you just ignore me like this. Do you hate me?"
Female: "I just I just think it’s hard to answer what you said.”
Male: “Don’t worry, if you really don’t want to come to me, I won’t force you. I just want to know your attitude.” (Brother, this is your attitude. You are forcing yourself.)
When chasing a girl, you must understand that she started chatting well with us because our interest or value attracted her, but this does not mean that she has fallen in love with us. If we want girls to fall in love with us, we have to continue to be attracted, accumulate good feelings, and then improve the relationship.
If a girl shows signs of losing favor with us, what we should do is to find out the reason and use actions to make up for it, instead of directly questioning the girl like this.
Even if the fault is not thereThere are other people in us who are also attracted to her, but an overly direct showdown is unacceptable to any girl. You will only make her more sure of the goodness of the other person, and her only good impression of you will be gone. live.
2. Not knowing when enough is enough
I was chatting with the girl very late and ran out of topics. , and she was already drowsy, and she was very eager to discuss her life with Duke Zhou, but you just refused to let her go. In desperation, she had to forcefully grab her phone and continue chatting with you while taking a nap.
Moderation is very important when chatting with girls. When there is no topic, you should end the chat and stop it.
When a girl is tired of chatting and has something to talk about, if the boy keeps pulling her to talk, the girl will escalate from "not wanting to talk" to "feeling irritable", and then further to "feeling upset" with you. The person develops feelings of boredom.
And if a girl is in a bad mood, this kind of nagging behavior can easily make you pass on her negative feelings. Emotional goals.
Therefore, when it’s time to end the chat, you must stop it in moderation. Don’t pester the girl to chat with you all the time just for the sake of temporary pleasure. This will only be harmful to your relationship.
Then how do we judge that girls don’t want to chat with us anymore?
When girls have the following reactions, it means it’s time to end it——
< p> 1.When a girl’s modal particles gradually increase, the amount of information in her words gradually decreases, and she picks up your words at every turn, which means she is tired.
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The girl’s attitude was obviously perfunctory. She kept making jokes and trying to change the topic.
3.
When chatting in person, girls no longer focus on you, and start to frequently look at their mobile phones, or look around and become restless.
As long as you see these reactions from girls, it means it’s time to end the chat, and forcing the chat to continue will only have negative effects. . Find a reason to end the chat, leaving the girl in the best mood, and she will also express gratitude for your understanding.
