From strangers to lovers is a long process that requires many stages. When many boys are chasing girls, they often let the relationship remain above friends and lovers are not satisfied, and they don't know how to take it further. Over time, they really became ordinary friends.
Then when the relationship between two people has been stagnant, what should we do to make the relationship go further?
In fact, it is very simple. All we have to do is Only by tearing off this cognitive label and breaking other people's cognitive inertia towards us can we have the possibility of further development. Here are 2 ways to share:
1. Appropriate chat about ambiguous topics
Ambiguous topics can be in Intersperse the chat with depictions of body language.
For example, if a girl is criticized in the company, you can add emoticons such as "touching the head" and "hugging" in the chat.
For another example, if a girl makes a joke to you, you can say, "Pinch your face, scratch your nose, etc."
Ambiguous topics can also be chatting with girls about love. You must have seen this "routine" while watching videos:
A girl asks you what you want to drink.
The boy replied, "I want to protect you."
The boy asked the girl, do you know how to eat beef to make it delicious?
The girl replied, I don’t know.
The boy said, I will feed you.
Many people think that this kind of earthy love talk is very greasy, just staged, and has no reference value.
However, we have overlooked that love words are originally meant to be spoken to people with a certain emotional foundation.
If you talk about love to a stranger, she will feel offended; but if you talk to an acquaintance or friend, your relationship will take a further step.
Therefore, regardless of whether these love words are crude or not, as long as girls have never heard them, they are useful love words.
Appropriate ambiguity is like the spice in your emotional world. If a relationship wants to transition from strangeness to intimacy, ambiguity is an indispensable link.
Some notes on chatting about ambiguous topics:
Don’t talk too much. The consequence of talking too much is that the other party will think you are actually a philanderer;
You should grasp the appropriateness of the topic, the occasion when chatting, and the appropriateness of joking.
2. Counter throw
Counter throw is a delaying tactic to gain response time.
When we talk about chatting, we actually talk about emotions. Many times, when we hear the topics raised by the other party, we don’t have enough time to analyze the other party in our minds.emotions.
In order to give feedback in a timely manner, we have to transfer this external pressure on us back instead of answering in a closed loop. The principle is similar to Tai Chi.
For example, a girl may ask you: "What do you think our relationship is?"
At this time, you have two ways of answering.
Answer idea one: "Then what do you think our relationship is?"
Answer idea two: "You know both of us well, and you still ask me." < /p>
It should be noted that counter-tossing and all chat skills only serve as the icing on the cake in your chat.
Don’t use it repeatedly, otherwise it will leave the other party with the impression of “why do you have so many tricks”, and will alienate you instead.
