1. Calm down
When you have an argument with your girlfriend, the first thing to do is to calm down. When emotional, it's easy to say hurtful things or act impulsively, which only exacerbates conflicts. Find a quiet place, take a few deep breaths, and calm yourself down.
2. Listen to the other person
After calming down, listen to the other person’s views and feelings. Don't interrupt her and listen carefully to her demands and opinions. Try to understand her position and emotions, and express your understanding and concern.
3. Express your feelings
After listening to the other person, it is your turn to express your feelings. Use an "I" tone to express your opinions and feelings and avoid using accusatory language. For example, "I feel hurt" instead of "You always hurt me." This will avoid further escalation of the argument.
4. Find common ground
After expressing your feelings, you can try to find common ground between both parties. Finding common ground can reduce antagonism and conflict, paving the way for problem resolution. Try to find something in the other person's perspective that you can agree on and highlight those commonalities.
5. Propose solutions
After you find common ground, you can start proposing solutions. Discuss with your girlfriend how to solve the problem and find a solution that is acceptable to both of you. Respect the other person's opinions and be willing to compromise. Through cooperation and communication, the best solutions can be found.
6. Avoid excessive quarrels
In the process of solving problems, avoid excessive quarrels. If you find that your emotions are rising again, you can stop temporarily and give each other some time to calm down and think. Excessive quarrels will only aggravate conflicts and are not conducive to solving problems.
7. Learn to apologize and forgive
Finally, after solving the problem, it is very important to learn to apologize and forgive. If you made a mistake or hurt the other person, admit it and apologize to her. At the same time, we must also learn to forgive each other's faults and not complain or hold grudges. Only through apology and forgiveness can a relationship be truly repaired.
Arguing with your girlfriend is inevitable, but how you deal with it is controllable. Strategies like calming down, listening to each other, expressing your feelings, finding common ground, coming up with solutions, avoiding excessive arguments, and learning to apologize and forgive can help us better handle arguments and maintain a healthy relationship.
