It is basically a consensus that boys need to take the initiative to chase girls. But if a boy doesn’t take the initiative, can he not find a girlfriend? Of course not. If you are in good condition, handsome and wealthy, you can still be single. But I believe that most boys do not have such conditions. So, let me tell you a naked truth, that is, if a boy doesn’t take the initiative, he really can’t find a girlfriend!
Let’s think about it from another angle. First of all, boys usually take the initiative in relationships. In most cases, it’s because boys generally have stronger physiological impulses and reproductive awareness than girls.
Although in today’s society, boys do not necessarily need to fall in love to obtain sex, this has also reduced some boys’ urgent need for love. But if a boy still hopes to have a long-term, stable, safe and healthy relationship and partner, he must choose the path of love.
At this point, the person with the stronger physiological drive is usually the one who takes the initiative, so it is usually the boy who pursues the girl.
Secondly, judging from the general phenomenon in society, girls pay more attention to dressing up and self-grooming, and losing weight is a perennial topic.
From hairdressing to manicure, to hair removal, to weight loss and dieting, it is not without results.
Generally speaking, there are more good-looking girls, but there are very few good-looking boys.
People all yearn for beauty and pursue beauty. In other words, the person who can make a boy want to fall in love and pursue him actively is rarely an unattractive girl.
In terms of aesthetics, even many boys, let alone unattractive girls, will sneer at them. They will be full of disgust for many girls who are not good-looking enough.
Because in the eyes of most boys, only those who are "good-looking" are considered "girls", and those who pass the "passing line for appearance" are considered "women". Others At most, it can be regarded as "female".
Therefore, when we look back, we can see several facts:
1. Although girls have physiological needs compared to boys, the more important thing is that girls do not have such urgent needs If you live without X for a year, can you accept it?
The answer is generally, "Many girls are very happy to choose to buy themselves a wardrobe of new clothes."
2. In the traditional concept, a girl's initiative is easily looked down upon, considered not reserved enough, and is easily viewed as a bargain by the other party.
Therefore, the cost for girls to take the initiative is relatively high.
3. More girls lack emotionsof a sense of security.
Basically all girls lack a sense of security. Therefore, the first potential requirement of many girls when choosing a mate is to hope that the other party can provide them with material and emotional security.
Therefore, the sense of security brought by "being loved" is much greater than the sense of security that can be obtained by "giving love".
4. In a broad sense, although many girls have taken the initiative and achieved happiness. But in fact, most of the results of more girls' active relationships are "tragedy".
It is not accurate at all for women to chase men with layers of gauze. If a boy really doesn’t like a girl, it is basically a “barbed wire” fence, which is still electrified.
It can be seen that the "cost" for ordinary girls to continue to take the initiative is actually too high.
And for a girl to let go of her reserve and pursue a boy, there is really no other reason for her to take the initiative except that the boy's additional conditions or overall strength are really great.
Therefore, everyone’s “initiative” has a cost.
Boys’ initiative lies in: sexual attraction, sexual impulse, physiological satisfaction, reproduction needs; love; and good looks. And high value is the basis for attracting girls to take the initiative.
Therefore, as an ordinary boy, if you don’t want to be unable to find a girlfriend for the rest of your life, then take the initiative and don’t take your face too seriously, just like going to the podium and going on stage a few more times. , no more questions.
