When many boys get along with girls, whether the girls are in a bad mood or feel uncomfortable, they always say "drink more hot water", which makes the girl's already unattractive mood even worse. So how do you comfort a girl who is in a bad mood to make her happy?
1. Listen. And observe
When a girl complains to you, don’t rush to find words to comfort her. The first thing you have to do is listen and observe. Listening is to understand the reasons for her negative emotions, and observation is to discover her real needs.
When she finishes speaking what is in her stomach, you will find that most of her low mood has disappeared. Then look for the key words you heard and what you felt. Then ask and guide.
2. Ask and guide
Girls may often say some very unreasonable things.
For example: "I like people who stand by me indiscriminately."
You definitely want to ask: "If you poke a hole in the sky, will I too?" Do you want to stand on your side?"
I'm not talking about you. If she really committed some heinous crime, can you handle it? Just think about it.
When a girl says this, she just wants to see your attitude and see if you trust her and support her.
What boys see is the logic of expression, but what girls actually care about is emotional feelings.
For example:
Female: I like people who stand by me indiscriminately.
Male: Don’t worry, even if you poke a hole in the sky, I believe you are doing it for the common people.
Female: Hahaha, you think I am Nuwa.
Follow her train of thought. Anyway, it’s just talk. The important thing is to make her feel that you understand her.
The same is true when asking and guiding. The main purpose is to find the emotional needs expressed by girls.
When girls say “the boss is so annoying”, their emotional need is to complain about the boss with you, rather than to listen to your rationale.
You can reply: "Tell me, why did he offend you, and I will beat him up for you."
The girl said, "I feel bad because I didn't sleep well." Emotional needs The point is that you care about why she didn't sleep well, rather than asking you to find ways to hypnotize her.
You can reply: "What's wrong? Which handsome guy do you want?".
Once she hears that you are so humorous, she will first relax emotionally, and then you will get to the point. Won’t she easily understand the reason?
3. Diversion of attention
When a girl is in a bad mood, if you can easily divert her attention Believe me, she will be obsessed with the feeling of being with you.
Science shows that the human brain has a part called the corpus callosum. The corpus callosum is the part that connects the left and right brains and is used to transmit information and emotions between the left and right brains.
The female corpus callosum is about 30% larger than the male corpus callosum, so women have more connection points between the left and right brains than men, which also causes girls to switch quickly in thinking and have more changeable emotions.
Therefore, it is not that difficult to comfort a girl and divert her attention.
For example, if a girl fails the postgraduate entrance examination and is in a very low mood, you should give her hope at this time and help her escape from that negative atmosphere.
You can say: "It's been a hard time. It's holiday soon. A few of my friends organized a self-driving trip to the grassland. The flowers are blooming just right this season, and the whole sea of ??flowers is beautiful. It’s beautiful. Come with us, you only need to bring yourself and leave everything else to me.”
The more detailed you can describe the grassland scenery, the better you will be able to resist. It makes people daydream about it and naturally makes them yearn for it.
When you get to the grassland, you can pick wild flowers for her, take her to eat barbecue, and get her to play games with everyone, and slowly the unhappy emotions will be forgotten.
By analogy, you can also take her to the amusement park, share things she is interested in, and tell her jokes. Can she still be unhappy?
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