As for the best time to get back together after divorce, my answer is: now.
You need to take action immediately. Even if you have nothing to do, you must make preparations first. No matter how complicated the divorce is, there is still the possibility of remarriage, and it is by no means impossible. The key is to have a good plan and layout in the early stage, and gradually expand the limited opportunities for compounding until the compounding is successful.
It is definitely right to prepare for everything early. Only by planning and planning early can you seize the fleeting reunion. opportunity. In this process, we must first pay attention to two points:
1. The other party’s emotion
The other party’s emotion is the most important factor in the post-divorce process. . Only by grasping the other party's emotions can we avoid pitfalls and effectively advance the reconciliation process. We must find ways to deal with the other party's negative emotions in a timely manner, and add positive emotions to the heart anchor to play a reinforcing role. This is also a dual manifestation of IQ and EQ. In the process of getting back together after divorce, you often have to try to push the other person's emotions, and at the same time be good at identifying emotions, grasping emotions, and utilizing emotions. These are all things you need to start learning now.
2. The other person’s perception
The other person’s negative perception of you is a roadblock on your road to reconciliation. If you want to solve this problem, you must start with the details. . Only by letting the other party truly see your changes can you reverse the bad perceptions accumulated over a long period of time in the past.
It can be said that if the other party’s negative perception of you has not changed, then no matter how hard you try, it will not work. On the contrary, if you can improve the other person's perception of you and change the other person's impression of you through your own efforts, then your relationship will quickly warm up in a short period of time, and reconciliation will naturally come naturally.
Now that I have said this, let me explain to you an important concept: emotional waves. After divorce, both your own and the other person's emotions will fluctuate;
No matter how unfeeling you are, the emotional waves of compounding after divorce will flash through your mind, but the amplitude may be smaller and last. The time is relatively short, but it will definitely happen. For example, after the divorce, if the other party goes to eat alone, he may feel a little lonely and think, "It would be great if you were still around."
So the key thing we have to do is to grasp the other party’s emotional waves. I want to emphasize: This is not to go against the current, but to go with the trend. Reuniting after a divorce is a natural thing. If the emotions and timing are in place, the two people will naturally get back together. Therefore, the key point of getting back together is to use force when you notice the other person's emotional fluctuations. If the time is right, it will be successful in one go. Even if it doesn't work once, it will succeed after a few more attempts. Never act when the other person’s negative emotions are extremely highWhen the situation arises, get closer to the front. This will only make the other party more disgusted, and the gain outweighs the loss.
It’s still the same sentence: The best opportunity for reconciliation lies not in time, but in a series of opportunities accompanied by the ups and downs of emotions. After recognizing this, we need to talk about the key points of seizing the opportunity, especially the preparations before exerting force.
1. Sort out the problems between yourself and the relationship between the two parties
If you really want to get back together after divorce, then remember not to wait for the opportunity. If you just wait in vain, then Even discovering opportunities is a problem. If you want to get back together after a divorce, you need to take practical actions. The first thing is to sort out the relationship between the two parties, reflect on the problems between the two people, and think of a solution before the time comes. Only then can we seize the opportunity.
Specifically, you can refer to the following points:
a. Recall the quarrels and conflicts between two people in their marriage
b. Review the "old accounts" that the other party often brings up
c Reflect on the differences between the two parties, which are the conflicts
d Check the other party’s social dynamics
e Find chat records: first review your records in the last month, Review your initial experiences, and finally review the experiences in the marriage process (summary of all common issues in the process)
2. Identify emotional turning points
The first thing is to eliminate the time period when the other person is most likely to have negative emotions based on the other person's past mood swing habits (for example, some people are more cheerful in the morning and more depressed at midnight). The second step is to judge whether the other party's emotional wave is positive or negative based on the other party's social dynamics. After making a basic judgment, you can also test it a little. Remember not to use too much force to avoid arousing the other party's resentment.
3. Reversing perception and overall planning
These two points are the purpose and specific methods of getting back together after divorce. If you want to reverse the other party’s perception, you cannot do without a comprehensive approach. Coordination and planning. At the very least, before you take action, you must first determine what negative perceptions the other party has of you? How can you improve it, etc.
The general direction is to improve the other party’s specific impression of you and adjust the other party’s expectations for your future relationship. To achieve this goal, we must start from the small and see the big, and change the other party's perception step by step.
