Some boys have always had girlfriends around them, but some boys have never been able to find a girlfriend since they were single. There is definitely a big difference between the two. Let me analyze why some people can never find a girlfriend? What changes should be made to find a girlfriend?
Why some people can never find a girlfriend
In fact, it is not difficult to find a girlfriend. The difficulty is that many people do not accept the fact that they are "poorly attractive" and have too high standards. .
I want to find a girlfriend, but I want to enjoy the happiness of being single intermittently.
I want to find a girlfriend, but I don’t dare to approach a girl who likes me.
I want to find a girlfriend, but I have no actual relationship experience with the opposite sex.
So when you say why some people can never find a girlfriend, it boils down to one word - laziness. Too lazy to accept my own mediocrity, too lazy to dress up and meet the opposite sex, too lazy to learn knowledge and experience about love, and finally tired of being in the comfort zone with a wait-and-see attitude and not accepting others easily. If a person "holds back, he will go backwards". Then even if God comes, he can't help you find a girlfriend!
What aspects should be changed if you want to find a girlfriend?
1. Appearance reconstruction
This is human nature: starting from appearance, falling into talent, and being loyal to character. If you have a slovenly image and your image is not up to par, no matter how talented or nice you are, no girl will want to deal with you. So pay more attention to your outfit, hairstyle, skin care...these are your first impressions.
2. Broaden girls’ resource circle
There are two ways to broaden girls’ resource channels: online + offline
Online means getting to know each other through social software. After online dating, Run now.
Online social software: Tantan, Jimu, Hands-in-hand, Jiayuan, WeChat, Douyin, Xiaohongshu, Bilibili, etc. all have social attributes.
Offline is the introduction of acquaintances, and we naturally get to know each other when we get together.
Offline methods: friend gatherings, classmates having fun, blind dates, acquaintance introductions, training course classmates, scripted board game activities, etc.
Only by collecting a lot of resources first and getting to know more girls can you possibly meet the girl you like.
3. Love awareness
After recognizing more and more girls, you need to promote relationship, it is possible to find a girlfriend.
In the process of love, the relationship between men and women progresses step by step. From the initial acquaintance, to familiarity, then to feelings of love, to ambiguity, and finally to separation.
The way normal people fall in love is like this. The reason why they are slow to advance the relationship and stay in the ambiguous zone with the person they like is becauseBecause there is no sign of goodwill, seize the opportunity to enhance the relationship. This will lead to: a boy chasing a girl will still be friends after a year, while some people can advance the relationship within a few days of knowing each other.
For example:
?Wrong way: (The two have just met and haven’t chatted for a few days, so they directly confess their love or call each other “baby”)
This is The wrong way to promote a relationship is to directly do things in the "ambiguous stage" when you first get to know each other. This will arouse resentment and the other party will of course think you are greasy and casual.
?Correct way: (The two have just met for a few days, gradually exchange information, build up good feelings and continue to attract)
This is the correct love posture, first find a way to continue to attract, so that After the other person likes you, you will try to say something that crosses the line. This will bring more and more comfort to the other person.
