Fighting is an inevitable problem that couples will encounter, but how to properly handle the relationship after a quarrel is an art. When you have a fight with your girlfriend, instead of being cold-hearted or evading, you should take the initiative to coax her to repair the damaged relationship.
1. Calm down
During a quarrel, emotions often get out of control and words may hurt the other party. So don't rush to apologize or explain before you calm down. Find a quiet place, calm yourself down, and think about the reason for the quarrel and your fault.
2. Reflect on yourself
Quarrels are often caused by problems on both sides, so you are trying to coax the girl. Before making friends, first reflect on whether you have done anything wrong. If you discover your mistake, you must have the courage to admit it and sincerely apologize to your girlfriend.
3. Give her time and space
When your girlfriend is angry or sad, give her some time and space to calm down. Don't pressure her to forgive you or fix the problem right away, as this will only make her more resentful. Respect her feelings and express your understanding and willingness to wait.
4. Send a small gift
After your girlfriend calms down, you can consider sending a small gift to express your apology and concern. This gift does not need to be expensive, it can be a bouquet of flowers, a book or a movie ticket that she likes. The important thing is that the gift should be thoughtful and make her feel that you mean it.
5. Do things she likes
Understand your girlfriend’s interests and hobbies and actively participate in them. If she likes watching movies, go to one with her; if she likes shopping, go to the mall with her. By doing things that she likes, you can enhance the intimacy and understanding between each other.
6. Listen and communicate
When your girlfriend is willing to communicate with you, listen carefully to her thoughts and feelings. Don't interrupt her or try to defend or explain. Only by truly listening and understanding her feelings can you find a solution to the problem.
7. Express love
When coaxing your girlfriend, you should express your love for her through words and actions. You can say some warm words, such as "I really love you", "I would be sad without you", etc. At the same time, you should also use actions to prove your love, such as taking the initiative to help her with housework, taking care of her life, etc.
8. Establish common goals
After a quarrel, you can set some common goals with your girlfriend to enhance mutual trust and cooperation. This goal could be traveling together, learning a skill together, or realizing a dream together. By working together, we can bring each other closer together.
9. Continuous improvement
NoisyFighting is just a small episode in a couple's relationship, but how to learn from it and continue to improve is the most important thing. Recognize your own shortcomings and work hard to correct them. Only by constantly improving yourself can your girlfriend see your progress and develop more trust and dependence on you.
Fighting is an inevitable problem that couples will encounter in their relationship, but by properly handling it and actively improving it, the relationship between them can become stronger. When you have a fight with your girlfriend, instead of running away or keeping silent, you should take the initiative to coax her to repair the damaged relationship.
