If you were asked which love relationship is the most difficult to forget, you would definitely answer your first love! No matter whether your first love is long or short, deep or shallow, it seems that first love is the most unforgettable. Do you know why?
Why is first love so hard to forget?
I used to think that if a relationship is hard to forget, it is because of the attachment to beauty. Later, after seeing too many emotional entanglements, I realized that the first love is forgotten. It's because of self-blame.
"Later" by Rene Liu can be regarded as a representative song about the difficulty of getting over first love. The lyrics are also full of self-blame:
"If we could have been less stubborn then, we would not be so regretful now"
"Later, I finally learned how to love, but you had already disappeared into the sea of ??people. ”
The name of this song is Later, but people who hear it will only think of the past.
The characteristic of first love is that it is passionate and youthful. The passion is because you are young and pure, and you do not have too many utilitarian considerations for love, and there are not many helplessness forced by reality; the youthful love is because you are young and ignorant, and you have no love. Eager but without the ability to love, everything is a mess when you look back. It's because there are too many assumptions in my mind, too many thoughts of "if it didn't happen at that time, it might happen in the future." Maybe you won't break up, maybe this relationship will work well, maybe you didn't break up then and now you have children...
< p> The more things are assumed, the more unknown things are, and the more unfalsifiable the imagination of these things is. The result is the more painful and regretful you will be.If a relationship occurs in a mature period, at an age when you clearly know what you want to choose and what you don’t want to give up, your regrets will be reduced by half. You got along, you argued, you broke up. When you look back, you will feel that this is the only way it can be, and breakup is inevitable; because the communication problem between you has been there for more than a day or two, it has been like this every time, and there is no way to communicate at all;
Because I am too "mature", I have nothing to say when the relationship breaks down: I know what kind of person you are, and I also know what kind of person I am, so I will not have any inappropriate expectations and expectations for this relationship. fantasy.
Perhaps, the reason why first love is so hard to forget is a compensation for one's own life, an ideal homeland for facing an increasingly utilitarian life as one ages, and some kind of feeling that remains deep in the heart. mood.
The first time you meet someone you like, the nervousness of trying to communicate for the first time, the first time you feel that he is paying attention to you, the joy of it,
The first time you realize there is competition The anxiety of the reader, and the loneliness of not getting what he wants in the end. In the end, it’s not that person that can’t be let go, but the fragmented thoughts intertwined with all the fragments of youth.
Later, real life was full of bumps, and later relationships and marriages were short-lived. The first love became a white moonlight, a safe haven, and seemed the most unforgettable.
