In addition to being able to chat when chasing girls, you also need to learn to show yourself. After all, even if you are very good, but you can’t show it, the girl won’t know it. Then your excellence will naturally be difficult to attract her. . So how should you show yourself appropriately when chasing girls?
1. Don’t pretend online
First of all, we must not pretend, but this thing also requires methods! Not pretending does not mean that you have to set your circle of friends to be visible for three days and not update a single update for a month.
Even if you are an interesting young man with an extremely rich inner world, if your circle of friends is visible for three days, it will not make girls feel the charm of your soul in the first place. I can only sigh, hey, this person probably doesn’t have much of a life.
Rather, don’t just show off your WeChat wallet balance, Alipay transfer records, and visits to five-star luxury hotels. This is too much and is a bit pretentious.
Show off hard value in the circle of friends. Unless you are a rich man who looks down on others or a second-generation rich man who is mad at others for not negotiating with others, the gains outweigh the losses. Moreover, some fake displays are easy to see through and are not a long-term solution.
Therefore, your self-presentation should be the most authentic version of yourself, so that the talents you attract are people who are in tune with you.
Give me an example!
Nowadays, many people like to build buildings and canvass votes on Double Eleven. , after just one operation, I didn’t go directly to the store to get 200 off for a purchase of 600 or more. If this continues for a long time, naturally no one will believe in online shopping festivals.
Therefore, although WeChat’s circle of friends is an excellent place to display personal values, it must be sincere and real.
After understanding this, we will have a better understanding of how to display our self-image.
Perhaps you feel that your life is monotonous and you have nothing to post.
I have no money and no face. I don’t have mermaid lines or eight-pack abs. What to show for it? Even if it’s an auction, you must at least have something valuable.
It’s not necessary. Value doesn’t mean you have to have a house, a car, and an annual income of millions.
The value you want to demonstrate is "higher value than others", not "high value".
Let’s give a few examples:
No one has time to cook for themselves. If you have leisure time, you can make lunch for yourself;
Everyone is running for a living. You have no time to care about enjoying life, but you have always had a persistent interest and hobby;
Everyone usually only knows how to read jokes, but you are the joker in the circle of friends...
None of these things are valuable, but they are all real "higher value than others" - a person's value has nothing to do with the money he shows, and whether the status and value he shows are unique enough. There is a relationship.
2. Offline anchors
In real life, we can use appropriate implantation Heart anchor, let yourself have a label.
This label can be an interest, a skill, or even just a style of clothing, such as Wong Kar-wai’s sunglasses.
It’s not about being more, but about being deeper. For example, if you like watching movies or reading novels, you can mention these appropriately when you meet others. When you meet someone who has the same hobbies as you, you may have many topics in common.
In addition to labeling, another issue that many people will ignore is your "values". When we create labels, we must also consider our own values.
Whether you are an inspirational person, someone who likes to complain, a warm-hearted person or a melancholic young man, a label that fits your personality can quickly deepen the other person’s understanding of you.
In fact, our personal value display has nothing to do with money and social status, but to show our unique side and show that we have values ??that no one else has. Fewer routines and more sincerity are the best. A deeply rooted value display.
