Many people long for beautiful love, but imagination is beautiful, but reality is very skinny. Many boys don’t even know how to find a partner, let alone find a love partner that suits them. So how do you find a love partner that suits you?
1. Appearance preference
< p> A 2009 study showed that:People begin to convey their personality characteristics to others before they utter any words or make any body movements.
Personality characteristics include introversion, emotional stability, openness, and self-esteem.
In other words, people are attracted by beautiful things. This beauty, on the one hand, is the appearance of the other person. On the other hand, it is the personality characteristics of the other party revealed through appearance.
This explains in disguise that the beautiful things that people like are similar.
Because, when personal aesthetics does not change qualitatively, the beautiful things people filter out through aesthetics are all within a certain range.
For example, during a period when our aesthetic level has not changed, the styles, styles, and even colors of the clothes we buy are roughly similar.
For example, for some celebrities we often pay attention to, whether they think they are beautiful or have a good temperament is actually based on their own preference for appearance.
Therefore, some people just need to look at them to make people "feel right".
2. Inner Archetype
Psychologist Carl Jung believed that there is an inner archetype in everyone's heart. The "prototype" of love affects people's love at first sight.
We can understand this prototype as people’s typical impression of a certain event, person, or behavior.
It is a vague but profound picture in our minds.
For example, when we talk about the criteria for choosing a spouse, Bai Yueguang pops up in our mind. She is our perfect goddess and our standard.
This standard is the prototype in our hearts.
It is an unconscious standard we establish, which will directly affect our choices and reactions to the opposite sex.
For example, your Bai Yueguang is Fan Bingbing.
Then, certain characteristics of this prototype, such as gentleness, intellectuality, charm, and even certain actions she has done, will guide you to choose a person who is similar to her.
This means that each of us has already established a standard for choosing a partner under the influence of our family since childhood.
It is in our subconscious, silently influencingRinging us.
Although we can’t explain the exact nature of this prototype, the “eye-opening” and “feeling right” we pursue are all dominated by it.
It is a combination of various characteristics of family and self, which is why the "right person" always looks like himself or his family.
So the question is:
Since love at first sight is determined by these two items, can we artificially increase the chance of falling in love at first sight?
Yes.
For example, regarding appearance preferences, when you first meet, occasionally shift your gaze to the triangle between the other person’s eyes and the bridge of the nose. This can not only reduce the sense of oppression, but also make the atmosphere more relaxed and create comfort. feel.
For example, for the inner prototype, pay attention to the volume of your speech when you first meet. Anthropologists have found that men with lower voices are more attractive and more in line with women's inner prototypes.
Therefore, there are ways to fall in love, and blind pursuit of high probability is thankless. Only by choosing the right path and using the right approach can you get twice the result with half the effort, and even make yourself the target of pursuit.
