Some boys, after adding a girl on WeChat for the first time, always greet him in a very bland way, so the girl doesn’t even respond to his desire, and often gets rejected by girls, so he feels that this girl is right He had no interest and gave up on the girl.
In fact, if a girl is not interested in you at all, there is no need for her to bother adding you to her WeChat account. If you can communicate through friends, you can probably say a few words under normal circumstances. After all, even if a girl wants to deal with others, she will have to go through the process with you more or less, so that she won't be so rude that she ignores them.
The reason why girls ignored you after you first added to WeChat is that there is something wrong with the way you greeted and started. Next, let me tell you the correct way to greet a girl when you add her to WeChat for the first time!
1. Don’t Be in a hurry to talk
Don’t be in a hurry to talk. After you add a girl as a friend for the first time, if the girl doesn’t say a word after you say hello, at least 80% of the reasons are because the boy is too impatient.
Because you may not even know her basic information, you may say something that is either unpleasant, boring, or speechless, which makes the girl resist.
Unless you have done your homework in advance and know almost the basic information about this girl, otherwise you know almost nothing about her, so saying hello is basically blind.
So after adding friends, you should first give each other a buffer period and observe each other's circle of friends (not only for yourself, but also for girls), so as to get a basic understanding of each other.
If someone introduced you to each other, then the girl may have become curious about you because of the good words of the introducer. She will first look at your circle of friends to get basic information, and then take the initiative to say hello. If At this time, if you impatiently go up and say hello casually, you are wasting this innate advantage.
Generally speaking, you can reserve a buffer period of 10-30 minutes after a friend passes through, and use this time to observe her circle of friends and think about action strategies, such as what to say in the first sentence, etc. wait. In this case, even if the girl doesn't take the initiative to say hello to you, you will still have enough confidence to complete the first attraction.
2. Three lessons to eliminate blind greetings
Lesson 1:
If there is an introducer, keep in touch with the introducer and ask him or her to give you a more detailed introduction to the girl’s situation.
For example, her hobbies and personality, these basic information are all ourYou need to refer to it when starting a chat with a girl.
If there is no introducer, or the introducer does not have any valuable information, then you need to do homework two!
Homework two:
Open a girl’s circle of friends and browse through them carefully. Many details in the circle of friends are the source of our first words with girls.
However, sometimes homework 2 is not easy to do. For example, some girls’ friend circles have no content at all, and some girls’ friend circles are messy. Then homework 2 is not easy to do. It will not last long. People in the love market can basically not find any useful information in it, so they can do homework three.
Homework three:
Build your display, especially your avatar!
Yes, your avatar is very important! Sometimes, no matter how well you make your circle of friends, you neglect your avatar. I’m sorry, but if this girl is not particularly attracted to you, she may not click on you at all. If you have a circle of friends, then you have no display.
But the avatar is different. This is a display that girls can 100% see.
It should be noted that some types of pictures are not very suitable for avatars, such as cartoons, landscapes, wretched men, and muscular men. If your avatar happens to be in this list, then in order to be able to give A girl’s initial favorable impression should be changed in time! Because these avatars generally give people negative feelings.
Cartoon avatars give girls the impression that this boy is either a homebody or not mature enough;
Use landscape photos to show that this boy is more serious and old-fashioned and has no interest;
< p> Using obscene pictures as a profile picture means that the boy has very low taste. If you meet a prejudiced girl, you may even think there is something wrong with your character;If a muscular man is used as a profile picture...girls will think so. You are either a roughneck or you believe in violence.
Choosing a suitable avatar has a huge impact on the first impression you can leave in a girl’s mind. So brothers, you must pay attention to this lesson, don't let you lose at the starting line before you even talk to a girl.
As long as homework three is done well and no negative feelings are created for the girl’s first impression, then even if you fail the first and second homework, you can still start chatting slowly. At this time, say hello to a girl in a decent manner. If she sees that your profile picture is pretty good, she will basically reply to you.
3. Two things you need to pay attention to during the starting stage
1. Simple language
If you don’t get effective information, you can only use the common simple greeting method to start the chat.If so, then you need to be careful not to use too fancy words. Only by being concise and effective can girls be more willing to reply.
Some boys are afraid that girls will think that they are boring if their first sentence is too simple, so they forcefully add jealousy to their opening remarks without any valid information, such as using some very exaggerated adjectives. Compliment a strange girl. With such an overly fancy opening statement and no valuable information, the girl actually has no desire to reply, and may even think that the boy is glib and unreliable.
2. The number of words is symmetrical
That means that the number of words you and a girl talk to should be about the same.
If you speak too few words than a girl, it will give the girl the impression that you are not interested in her and are perfunctory.
On the other hand, the girl’s words are very short, and you send her a long and lengthy speech, which creates more bad impressions:
The chat becomes protracted and boring;< /p>
Girls may think you are checking your household registration;
Girls think you have an excessive desire to perform;
If your words are more gentle, then she may think You have low self-esteem and need to use speech to cover up your inner feelings;
If you are talking about truth, she may think that you are putting yourself in a superior position and "instructing" her.
Of course, it does not mean that the number of words must be exactly the same. This is not only more difficult, but also unnecessary. Just remember these two principles -
1. If the number of words for girls is relatively large, for example, more than 100 words, then it is better to keep your answer to about 100 words, not less than 10 words, no more than 200 words.
2. When a girl’s word count is relatively small, for example, no more than 10 words, then you should be careful not to exceed three times her word count.
If you violate these two principles, obvious asymmetries may occur. By adhering to these two principles, your conversation with girls will appear natural and smooth, allowing girls to remain interested in you.
