I believe everyone is familiar with the word ritual, because this word is often spoken by girls. So the question is, what is the sense of ritual that girls want? Why do girls need a sense of ritual? Today we Let’s discuss these two issues.
Why do girls always hope that each other can be more ritualistic?
At the same time, whether they are eating, When watching a movie or receiving a gift, you have to take photos to show the sense of ritual?
In my opinion, most girls pay attention to the sense of ritual, not for comparison but to get boys to care about her from the sense of ritual. A sign of love for her, in other words, the sense of ritual in the eyes of girls is the source of security.
The reasons behind this come from two aspects:
1. Social factors: the following mentality and contrast anxiety advocated by capitalism
In our common understanding In the cognitive concept, boys want to protect girls and satisfy girls’ little thoughts and princess dreams. Therefore, it is easier for girls to make ritualistic requests in a logical manner.
Coupled with the incitement of capitalism to the female community, various online platforms are instilling the idea that "the first cup of milk tea in autumn is what your boyfriend wants" and so on.
With the contrasts surrounding them, it is difficult for girls to stay in a rational state, and their cognition will be more or less shaken.
2. Gender differences: Genes determine that girls need to gain a sense of security in relationships from more aspects.
In addition to social factors, a considerable number of reasons are based on the gender of men and women. In addition to the differences, from the perspective of genetic inheritance, women in ancient times were physically weaker and must have had higher vigilance and crisis awareness. Therefore, they would worry about gains and losses because of the slightest disturbance. This is doomed to make girls emotionally unstable. She needs more attention and firm expression to continuously establish her sense of status and security.
And the sense of ritual = intention = sense of security, like the agreement certificate written in black and white, is firm and powerful, leaving no chance of being sentimental, no ambiguity and randomness, this is the persistence of girls in the "sense of ritual" source.
In other words, if you give girls a sense of security in this intimate relationship, girls will lower their expectations for the sense of ritual.
But if on the contrary, a girl often feels wronged and disappointed, she will be full of dependence on the sense of ritual to regain her hope in the relationship.
So, in what ways do girls mainly highlight their sense of ritual?
1. Carefully prepared The process is more precious
Compared to randomly ordering expensive gifts, they will prepare handmade scarves for you for a week to feel warm. But the premise must be that your preparation process is really careful and based on your girlfriend’s life needs.Be careful to prepare, rather than trying to be troublesome and thankless.
2. Deliberate selection is more valuable
Girls like to be favored, and they prefer to see that they have a special status in your heart and are taken seriously. Instead of a ceremony for the sake of ceremony, just pick a gift at random to deal with it.
3. Giving without taking the initiative is the real sense of security
Most girls don’t like to take the initiative. The more you love a girl, the less you like it, because in In the process of asking for something, they will feel like they have failed, as if all this was forced by them, rather than you taking the initiative to give it, then the sense of ritual will lose its original value.
How can what you offer and what you want be the same? The former is preference, while the latter is just agreement.
After sorting it out in this way, can you instantly understand what the sense of ritual girls want is? If there is anything still unclear, please ask me in a private message.
