There is a noble quality in the relationship between husband and wife called firmness. Being firm includes being firm in your relationship, firm in your partner, and firm in your own choices. There is another one called trust. Trust means believing in your own choices and your partner's feelings for you. Persistence and trust can allow a couple to support each other and go through many difficulties together, not only emotionally, but also in life.
Contrary to noble qualities, there are two opposite attitudes in relationships, one is called watching flowers, One is called sloppiness. The former hangs around with many members of the opposite sex like a fleeting glance, and does not give up the opportunity to find a better partner once he has a partner. Most of the latter are not straightforward and decisive when dealing with relationships with the opposite sex (including exes), and always maintain a vague connection, so it is also called "a disconnected relationship." When a person uses these two attitudes to manage a marital relationship, it means to his or her partner that he or she may be kicked out of the relationship at any time.
In other words, the partners of these people are particularly insecure. So what will they do in order to regain a sense of security? Either enhance their own attractiveness and firmly hold the other person in their hands.
Or take the initiative to leave, especially if you find that your efforts cannot keep up with your partner's change of heart. As the saying goes, "A gentleman does not stand behind a dangerous wall." As long as you leave him or her, you will never have to worry about being replaced.
This is why half-hearted people easily end up with nothing. How you treat your feelings will be how your feelings will repay you. If you treat your feelings as child's play, you will also be just a child's play in front of your feelings.
How should we manage a relationship so that it lasts for a long time?
1. We need to be rational when dealing with relationships
Feelings are a perceptual thing, but just like " "Absolute freedom brings only chaos, not freedom." If your feelings are completely dominated by emotion, it will only make you unable to see what you want, and then you will continue to make wrong choices, and eventually lose your feelings.
2. You also need to treat relationships seriously
The real beauty of relationships is not the joy of passionate collisions. Rather, we face life together in the accumulation of time. The position that joy occupies in a relationship is like the position that starlight occupies in the night sky. The starlight is bright and eye-catching, but after all, it only occupies a small part. The more in the starry sky is the black night.
Starlight embellishes the night. It is extremely beautiful, but the starlight must also rely on the night to exist. In a relationship, if you only pursue a small part of the brilliance and are unwilling to face the seriousness most of the time, your relationship will be nothing more than a rootless tree.
3.When feelings come, don’t give up all of yourself easily
Whether it’s your body or your feelings, it is your most precious thing. If you hand it over too easily, not only will the other person not cherish you, but you will also doubt your choice.
Before handing yourself over, please carefully examine whether this relationship is what you want, and whether that person is worthy of your trust for life.
