Recently, I have received requests from fans asking: Should a love relationship that parents do not agree with continue? I have thought about this question for a long time, and I have also understood it. Many friends choose to listen to their parents' opinions when faced with their parents' objections, so it's really hard to say what the standard answer is to this question. Let me just talk about my own point of view.
I think whether it’s love or other things, as long as it’s about yourself, you must first have your own opinion. Other people’s opinions are for reference, including parents.
You can respect your parents, but you don’t need to obey them in everything.
You can be filial to your parents, but you cannot have your own ideas and opinions.
Feelings are your own business and have nothing to do with anyone else. You can refer to the opinions given by your parents.
The only thing you have to do is "pay for your choice." But don’t choose with the mentality of “must win”. The greater your expectations, the greater your disappointment.
In this world, all choices involve gambling, and more of them require "man-made decisions."
You must know that love is an emotion. When the emotion is high, you are willing to go through fire and water for the other person; when the emotion is low, you just want to escape quickly. Emotion is also a psychological activity that is easily disturbed, influenced and controlled.
Therefore, you don’t need to hear how much the other person loves you, you only need to see what the other person does under the influence of external forces.
I feel that in a world between two people, they only weigh the pros and cons and do not stop losses in time. Breaking up is the result of weighing the pros and cons, and stopping the loss in time is just an excuse to make yourself feel better. Just imagine, if it can really be done in time, what losses will there be?
Frankly speaking, there is more or less self-interest and cost-effectiveness in love.
Two people are providing emotional value to each other. Once one party feels that you are not worth it, the other party will choose to give up. But family affection is different. It is a blood link. No matter how many conflicts arise between the other person and their parents because of you, they can never escape the sentence "I am your family and I am doing your best." Or standing on the moral high ground to suppress one party because of poor health, old age, unfilial piety or severing the relationship. These are the core issues facing parental interference.
Friends who are facing these problems, you need to distinguish whether you can choose each other firmly. If the other person is an extremely selfish person, or his attitude makes you hesitate, then I advise you that breaking up now is the best choice. If you trust him/her, and the other person trusts you enough, then please believe that the weather will eventually clear up after the rain.
If the person who is not favored by your parents chooses to continue with you, please don’t let the person who firmly chooses you lose, because this person has gambled everything for you. Go on firmly and prove to your parents that your choice is right.
Therefore, there is no right choice in the matter of "should a love relationship that parents disagree with continue?" It depends on whether that person loves you or not. Some people may say that if you don't listen to the old man, you will suffer a lot. But I want to say to these people, even if your life is not good in the end, don’t regret not listening to your parents. Because love is not just about happiness, don’t attribute the unhappiness to not listening to your parents’ opinions.
