Many people like to confess their feelings when chasing girls, but confession is actually not a good way to pursue them, and it is difficult to succeed in confession before attraction is established. So how to build a relationship to attract the girl you like?
1. Create your own positive attraction
When people face a confession from a stranger of the opposite sex, they will instinctively have a "pretending mentality", so people are more willing to accept each other's better confessions from the opposite sex.
The most intuitive manifestation of excellence in the relationship between the sexes is attraction.
The first thing you have to do is to make her notice you and develop a good impression of your existence. Also, you need to have a certain amount of leverage to interact with the other person, so that the other person feels that your way of showing kindness is not just a simple way of showing kindness. Instead of kneeling, licking and giving, you constantly attract and guide the other person to be willing to upgrade their relationship with you.
In terms of external appearance, girls can like someone who is not handsome, but they will never tolerate ugliness. The ugliness here does not refer to a boy's innate genes, but to the self-shaping and control of his acquired image.
So at least make it neat, clean, and comfortable, so that girls can at least not reject you from a visual perspective.
A boy’s first visual impression often determines a girl’s initial favorable impression of you. If you give a girl the first impression of being sloppy and immodest, then it is very likely that the girl will treat you immediately. Putting you on the love blacklist, no matter how hard you try in the future, it will not help.
2. Upgrade the relationship step by step
When the girl you like is acquainted with you, if she interacts with you frequently , then you should take the initiative to upgrade the relationship.
But does upgrading a relationship require you to confess your feelings directly and recklessly?
No. Instead, test the girl's mind bit by bit and let her continue to accept your presence in a subtle way.
So what should you do to gradually feel that your feelings for each other are getting closer?
The first thing you have to do is to test the girl’s current acceptance of you.
·Beginner-level ordinary friends: I don’t exclude chatting with you, but only on superficial topics. If the sense of daily activities is low, the other person will not take the initiative to pay attention to your behavior, nor will he take the initiative to show his kindness to you. His attitude towards you is no different from that of other members of the opposite sex.
·Mid-level close friends: Will take the initiative to talk to you about their concerns, and at the same time do not exclude being alone with you. They have a high sense of daily interaction, but girls will also avoid suspicion involuntarily. He won't take the initiative to show his kindness to you, but his attitude towards you is obviously more enthusiastic than other people of the opposite sex.
·High-end prospective boyfriend: She will often find topics to chat with you, and she is also interested in your topics. At the same time she did not refusePhysical contact with you includes holding hands when crossing the street, gently holding your shoulders when going down the stairs, helping her tie her shoelaces, etc.
So if this girl is not interested in you in the first place, she must improve the relationship step by step, and avoid being eager for quick success, otherwise it will easily be in vain.
You have to do two things: First, let the other party enhance their sense of identity with you. The second is to integrate into the other person's life.
3. Let commitment replace reckless confession
The most common and most easily rejected way of confession is as follows :
"Can I be your boyfriend?" "Can you be my girlfriend?"
This way of confessing is actually making a confession for girls. It's a multiple choice question, so she has the right to agree with you, and she also has the right to reject you.
Even if the relationship is in place, the success rate of your confession is only 50-50 due to the girl's reserve, mood, and desire to continue to consider you.
Be clear that confession is not announcing that you want to possess the other person, but stating your feelings when you are with her and promising that you will be better to her.
Then at this time, the success rate of "replenishing the promise" is often higher than that of confession. Because commitment is often a one-way behavior and no more pressure is put on girls, it is difficult for girls to refuse.
Commitment is actually not difficult. Many times, what girls are unwilling to accept is a possessive question like "Will you be my girlfriend?"
Rather, I want to hear your eloquent self-expression, so that girls can maintain their own reserve, and this committed confession ceremony will not make each other appear embarrassed, and girls will also be more willing Choose to accept it.
In the process of pursuing a girl, the girl’s response is very important, which determines how you want to pursue it. However, many brothers often make a mistake during chatting. They only talk to themselves and think about how to say something. When you pick up a girl, you actually make a big mistake by ignoring the girl's response.
