Many boys cannot pursue girls, not because they have bad looks, let alone poor conditions, but because they have a wrong concept of love and have problems with the way they pursue girls. Below, the editor will teach you 8 routines for boys to pursue girls. If you learn 3 of them, you will not be far away from being single.
1. Warm up the relationship instead of confessing
Many people regard confession as pursuing girls The method pays too much attention to the form of confession and the woman's verbal commitment. In fact, if you like a girl, just warm up the relationship with her. If she accepts you, continue to heat up the relationship until you become a substantial boyfriend and girlfriend. If she doesn't accept you, even if you confess your love, you will still be rejected.
Confession is just a ritual, not a way to pursue girls. In other words, confessing your love will not only fail to increase your probability of successfully pursuing her, but will actually bring your relationship to a deadlock. Women are creatures that are not good at making decisions. If a woman is not 100% sure that she likes you, she will definitely reject you. It can be said that confession will not have any positive effect.
2. Attract her rather than impress her
Many friends get this wrong! They try to make women like them by being reasonable, pleasing, and kneeling to lick her. In fact, attraction is an emotional feeling, a biological instinct, which cannot be changed by being moved. The only thing that can be moved is a woman's logic. Even if she logically knows that you are right for her and suitable for her, she has no emotional feelings for you and will still reject you. Because moving is not a feeling, there are too many men who receive good guy cards from women, and this is the reason.
Are you attracted to your favorite goddess because she treats you well? The answer is no! She has not even taken the initiative to approach you, and you naturally feel the value of her body. Attracted, fell in love with her.
3. Become a lover rather than a provider
In a woman’s subconscious mind, she will be attracted by those who pursue her. Men are divided into: lovers and providers. A lover man is someone a woman feels and wants to fall in love with. Provider-type men cannot make women have feelings or want to fall in love. They only treat women well and provide support value. For example, I am willing to buy a woman a car or a house, pick her up and deliver her car, and treat her well.
If you want to establish a romantic relationship with a woman, you need to make her like you as a person and become her lover, not something external to you. Many men think that women like rich men, so they buy bags, give gifts, and give red envelopes to women. As a result, he became the provider of women. A woman doesn't like you as a person, but she enjoys how nice you are to her.
Once a girl meets a lover-type man, a man she really likes, the woman will abandon her provider.
4. InvestmentYourself, not a woman
If you bloom, butterflies will come. There are too many men who would rather spend money on women, send red envelopes and gifts to women, than spend money on themselves. When a woman wears the clothes you give her and uses the cosmetics you buy, her value becomes higher and she becomes more attractive. But you are frugal and look shabby, so what can you do to attract women?
Investing in women will make you become a provider faster, investing in yourself will make you richer and more attractive. Women's capital.
5. Focus on her emotions rather than her logic
We don’t get along with women just because we are with her Be reasonable, feelings are unreasonable. What we need to pay attention to is women's emotions, because love itself is an emotion. Many men are accustomed to thinking rationally and logically, and are too straight when getting along with women, making women feel boring and boring, wasting their own conditions, and being evaluated by women as unattractive men.
In a relaxed and pleasant atmosphere, you quickly break through the stranger stage and can communicate normally; in an interesting and attractive atmosphere, girls gradually develop curiosity and affection for you; in an ambiguous and romantic atmosphere , your relationship will heat up, and you will gradually move closer to your boyfriend and girlfriend. This is about her emotions rather than her logic.
6. Go for love instead of friends
Some people are afraid of revealing their intentions and fear that women will reject them if they pursue them directly. So he chose to approach the woman as a friend first, and then tried to ask the woman to be his girlfriend after he became familiar with it. These people think they are very smart, thinking that the first to get the moon is the tower near the water, and the flowers and trees in the sun are easy to spring.
But in fact, women do have real friends of the opposite sex in their minds, and they have different standards for friends and boyfriends. Approach her as your friend, and she will look at you as a friend. In other words, women have much stricter standards for boyfriends than ordinary friends. Even if you can be friends with her, you may not meet her standards for a boyfriend.
In addition, over time you will fall into the friendship zone and be unable to extricate yourself, thereby missing opportunities. For this reason, you need to tell her through your behavior from the beginning that you are flirting with her and are here for love. Girls will naturally use the same standards for men to judge you.
7. Encourage her instead of judging her
The moral pressure on women is far greater than that on men! Our social culture has always required women to be reserved, conservative, and be good girls. Women have a huge aversion to men who judge her. If you judge her, she will immediately stay away from you and give you a cold face.
Common judgmental behaviors: How can a girl not go home so late? If a woman is conservative, how can she go out dressed like this? How can you?And casual interactions, etc.
Remember, you get along with a woman to warm up your relationship with her. If you judge her and make her feel that she is a bad girl in your eyes, the woman will immediately stay away from you. She originally belongs to you. The window has also been closed.
8. Seize the window and don’t try to stay.
There is a so-called window period in love. During the window period, you can quickly warm up the relationship with a woman. Once you miss the window period, women will no longer give you a chance. When many people meet a girl they like, they always want to get to know each other first and then talk about warming up the relationship. In fact, when you get to know each other well, your attraction is no longer mysterious in her eyes, and she no longer has any curiosity about you, and the window is closed!
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