It is a tacit understanding that everyone licks a dog until there is nothing left. After all, the foundation of a healthy relationship is equality and mutual respect. If you only kneel and lick without a bottom line, even if you lick it, it won't last long. So how can you stop being a bitch and chase the girl you like?
1. Self-awareness Adjustment
When chasing a girl, the reason why "chasing" is changed to "licking" is because there is a deviation in emotional cognition. I don't know how to chase a girl in the correct way. I think I kneel down. Licking is good for girls. You can win the favor of girls.
But in fact, "licking" seems to be giving to others, but in fact this kind of licking is often utilitarian, because your original purpose is to try to get something from the other person through "licking" What.
Secondly, the essence of sexual attraction is value, not how good you are to him. Touching is not love. Just like a beggar, no matter how nice he is to you, will you choose to be with him? You definitely won't. Because it doesn't attract you.
You must know that in love, there is an important difference between the love obtained through begging and the love obtained through one's own charm. . If you do not have the value of attracting people, no matter how good you are to him, you will not arouse his interest. Even if you obtain love by begging, if you do not improve yourself, this love will not be retained for a short time. .
Therefore, if you don’t want to continue to be a licking dog, the first task is to correct your own perception and focus on yourself, not the other person.
Improving your own value and correcting your own cognition are the basis. If you want others to love you, you must first make yourself a person worthy of being loved, so that we can have the confidence to ask others.
2. Guide the other party to give
Some "dog lickers" have more or less giving personalities. Performance. Due to the influence of their original family and life experience, they have formed a kind of flattering thinking: that is, fear and fear. If I don't do this, there may be serious consequences, so they bring this kind of thinking into love.
When you are in love, you are afraid that once you stop being nice to others, the other person will not be nice to you, and the other person will choose to break up with you. So I had to suppress myself and not express my inner feelings, including anger and anger, but just suffered silently deep in my heart. But in the end, the only one who suffers is himself.
You have to know that since the other person chooses to be with you, it is not just because you are a licker, not just because you are good to him, and he chooses to be with you, this proves that there is something wrong with you. The value that men need.
Expressing your own needs does not mean that you have lost your charm. You just get what you deserve. Love must be dignified. Only if you value yourself will others value you. If you value yourself, If you despise yourself, why will others value you?
Moreover, sometimes, a girl also wants to pay for you, but you have never given her a chance. Therefore, you can use appropriate communication methods and make reasonable suggestions. Use your own needs to guide the other person to pay for you.
Impressions can be reversed. Without destroying feelings, one can continuously improve one's dignity and status through communication. Let your status in the minds of girls continue to rise, and you will eventually achieve the counterattack of being a dog licker.
However, girls will definitely resist and feel uncomfortable if they suddenly make some excessive demands. Therefore, start with some small things first. When something feels easy to do, , usually will not refuse. For example, today you can tell her, how about bringing me a dinner? This is not an excessive request, and it is easy for girls to do it.
Slowly guide girls to pay for you through small things. As time goes by, girls will naturally want to pay for you.
But don’t stop giving yourself just to guide girls to give. When you guide girls to give, you must also make corresponding contributions. This kind of love develops healthily.
Change is a complicated process, and it cannot be solved by just a few words from a senior. If you want to really stop being a licker and chase the girl you like, you still need to realize it in advance. What kind of dog-licking behaviors you have in your relationship must be corrected in time.
