No one is willing to have a short-term relationship. Everyone hopes to have a long-term relationship, but it seems that every relationship ends hastily just after it begins. What is the reason? Is it really because I am not serious enough? Is it?
You must know that a long-term relationship requires not only fate, but also the correct love psychology and the correct maintenance method. .
Some people fall in love as if they are playing, but other people’s relationships are long-lasting; some people fall in love just for fun, but their relationships are still long-lasting; and some people don’t think too much about falling in love at all. More, it still lasts a long time.
Maybe you think these people are either rich or scumbags, but when ordinary people around you become sweet and long-term lovers, we all know that such lies can only deceive ourselves at the time. The feeling of unwillingness.
Therefore, we still will not choose to stop and take a good look at our mentality when facing love. We are still so paranoid about love, or we are still single or on the road to being single.
We all know that no one has ever stipulated that there must be a certain result in dedication and marriage, so why can’t we face it with a calm mind.
Although many things nowadays are result-oriented, I still want to tell you that the result is a goal and an expectation given by yourself. .
And the process of working hard and enjoying this goal and expectation is what we really need to focus on now.
Because all we can decide is the current process, and the quality of this process is the key to determining future results.
When we no longer focus on things that cannot be touched, but focus on the happiness of the moment, when we have the mentality of "I can get you, or I can lose you", that gorgeous flower Always open.
Frankly speaking, a long-term relationship is actually not difficult, but it is difficult for those who take love too seriously and take relationships too seriously.
Because, when we believe that something is important in our hearts, we will unconsciously and instinctively mobilize everything we have to serve this matter.
Make concessions for it and clear the way for it.
In this way, whenever we encounter a situation that deviates even slightly from our expected trajectory, we will use our strength to "correct" it to the expected trajectory that we think is right.
Or tugging, pulling, or tugging, we don’t ask the other party whether he accepts it, we just insist on following our own ideas regardless of it.
Because, we are always told by such a voice in our hearts: You have given everything, and you cannot lose.
In this way, some relationships that could have gone to the end were also destroyed.
Then, we will still be immersed in the memory of the last failure with the mentality of "I paid so much".
It is conceivable that this mentality Now, it is difficult to have a healthy and long-term relationship. It is also difficult to start a new relationship.
In fact, as long as we work hard to achieve something, we can easily do it by being calm, pragmatic and working quietly. If you use too much force, if you are too aggressive, too childish, or too inexperienced, you will cry, grab, pull, tug, and tug. , like a child pulling on the tablecloth, but getting nothing.
It’s just pulling all the good things on the table to the ground, and you will never get it.
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