People can’t always keep something fresh, and the same is true for relationships. No matter how good a couple is, they will inevitably enter a dull period after being in love for a long time. So what should you do to regain the feeling of being in love at this time? ?
How to regain the feeling of love when your relationship has entered a dull period?
1. Accept the reality of love
A truly good relationship is about trying to be a good person Partner, then lead the other person to become a person you like, instead of desperately throwing yourself into fantasy.
Therefore, the first level of reconciliation is to allow yourself to accept the reality of love, acknowledge the imperfection of the other person, and allow yourself to become rational and safe in the relationship.
2. Accept the dynamics of love
Many loves have such a drawback, that is, they feel that they are It is great and dedicated, but the other party does very little. No one understands anyone, and everyone feels aggrieved. Both of them imagined themselves too great in their relationship.
You will never see what the other person has done for you, only the achievements you have made. When you encounter any problems, you will not learn to think from others’ perspective. You will only blame the other person for why they are not as good as you want. What followed was quarrels and cold violence.
Therefore, the second level of reconciliation is that you have to admit that you are not actually that great, and the other party is not as bad as you imagined. The feeling of being unable to go back, what we can do is not to bite the bullet and let go , but accept.
In a sense, when you start to try to accept "love without passion", two people can transition to a higher dimension of family love.
3. Give up the illusion of passion
The so-called plainness does not mean that it is tasteless, but that both Be able to love each other in a comfortable way.
What is good love?
In fact, you have your own things to do, and he has his career to pursue. The meaning of love is not a tool to squeeze out the existing life. , but a spiritual sustenance to relieve each other's pressure and provide each other with support.
In short - love is a springboard to achieve a better relationship. Because of the existence of this love, your career, studies and life begin to enter a virtuous cycle, and the other person also continues to become better because of your existence.
Long-term love must be a win-win relationship, and many bad relationships cannot escape the curse of internal friction.
Life may seem dull, but you are constantly growing. You may no longer have the scenes of you and me when you were young, but it has given you a sense of faith that will last forever..
The romance of a long-term relationship is actually very simple. If you are thirsty in the middle of the night, poke next to you and someone will give you some water. Even if you are sick, just call twice and someone will give you medicine. It may seem ordinary, but in retrospect, it is full of love left over by the years.
So, do you understand?
The expression of love at each stage is not static. Love at each stage has its own unique expression.
