After many years of consulting, I found that the root cause of many bad relationships between husband and wife is that the two people cannot communicate, and then they accumulate bit by bit until they finally get out of hand. Therefore, I want to solve the problem between husband and wife. To solve marital problems, we must first learn to communicate. Today, the editor has brought you a guide on communication skills for couples. Come and take a look.
Communication skills for couples: Use "When you...I feel..." to communicate.
Example:
“When you” leave, “I feel” I miss you very much.
"When you" cry, "I feel" frustrated.
I feel nervous when you fall.
Using "When you" (when you do or say something)...I feel..." is a useful way of communicating to tell your partner how his or her behavior makes you feel. Conversation skills, because when you explain to the other party the impact of his actions or words on you in this way, it is less likely to bring psychological threats to the other party and cause misunderstandings and disputes.
This communication method includes. Two parts:
Part 1 is to describe the situation and your partner’s behavior.
Part 2 is to express your emotional reactions and feelings.
The focus of this communication style is not to blame the other person for causing these emotions.
Let’s look at the following two communication methods to get a feel for it.
(Error) Use the second person to communicate.
1:
Wife: You should put the dishes and chopsticks out early and wait for me to bring the dishes to the table.
Husband: We never serve meals on time. How do I know when you are ready?
Wife: You are so inconsiderate. I have been waiting for you for two hours. Yeah, you never consider my feelings.
Wife: How could you fall asleep in the middle of our conversation?
(Correct) Let’s use it next. "When you... I think... Let's talk 1:
Wife: The food is ready to be served but you haven't set the dishes yet. I started to panic because it took so much time to prepare and the food wouldn't taste good if it got cold.
Husband: I’m sorry, I didn’t notice that it was late when I was on the phone. Fortunately, you called me in time.
Wife: I feel disrespected when you fall asleep in the middle of our conversation.
Comments:
When two people use the second person communication method, their conversation can easily turn into blame. And when switching to the communication method of "When you...I feel...",Not only can the other person understand how you express your inner feelings, but you can also win their sympathy.
Using the communication method of how you should... will make the other party feel criticized and thus develop defense and counterattack. But "When you... I think..." can promote communication and understand each other better, and the other party will be willing to cooperate with you and accept your opinions!
The above are the communication skills for couples that the editor has brought to you today. , have you learned it? Again, just reading it is not enough, you must apply it in your life, so that it is really useful.
