When people reach middle age, marriages are actually prone to crisis. The main reasons include: 1) People tend to be impetuous under the pressure of old and young people. In this case, the "nagging" between husband and wife often brings negative emotions to each other, leading to a rapid decline in the relationship between the couple; 3) Due to physical reasons, the life of the couple begins to decline, which makes the romance between the couple If there is less impulse, at least the feelings will lose their cohesion.
In fact, when people reach middle age, choosing divorce is the most painful and unbearable thing. However, during this period, many people find it difficult to resist the "gentleness" of the outside world, and the coefficient of getting lost is also quite high. Of course, many middle-aged couples never consider divorce even if they are involved in extramarital affairs. However, in the later stages of infidelity, it is inevitable to suffer the consequences of divorce, or the relationship between the couple will deteriorate further.
Since people are prone to marital crises in middle age, how should we get through this difficult period?
1) Qiangzi (pseudonym) is an ordinary employee of a private company. In his married life, he was bullied by his wife. Qiangzi was also unhappy about this. However, Qiangzi can be sure of one thing: his wife’s starting point is to hope that the family will be happier. Therefore, when Qiangzi wants to get angry in the face of his wife's nagging, he will hint that he "can't be angry." In this way, with Qiangzi's forbearance, they survived the ordeal of marriage.
2) Xiaojing (pseudonym) works in a public institution, and her husband is a businessman. After marriage, my husband had many social activities, so it was common for him to come home late. Xiao Jing will naturally be unhappy. Xiaojing asked herself countless times: divorce? What to do with children after divorce? Is my husband really that bad? In the end, Xiaojing strengthened her belief not to divorce. Therefore, I occasionally blame my husband for coming home late, but during this period of time when I blame him, I never say anything extreme. In this way, they survived their midlife crisis.
3) A Peng (pseudonym) is a dance teacher, because his students are basically girls. Occasionally, he would eat with his female students. His wife was a little jealous about this. Apeng would feel that he did this purely to deal with the relationship with the students and had no selfish motives other than teaching. Therefore, I feel aggrieved for my wife's doubts and misunderstandings about him. However, Apeng's self-suggestion to himself is that his wife is jealous because she cares about me. Therefore, when A Peng faced his wife's jealousy later, he was no longer angry, but secretly happy.
4) Xiao Min (pseudonym) is a senior executive of a company. There are obviously strong women and weak men in the family. Xiao Min sometimes feels tired and wants to find a woman who can "suppress" her man and be his little bird. However, Xiao Min also understands that it is precisely because her husband takes care of all the housework that she can focus on her career. Thinking of this, Xiao Min felt sorry for her husband.There is more tolerance. Gradually, I got used to this kind of life.
In fact, regarding the mid-life crisis, as long as you stick to the bottom line of being loyal to your marriage, and be more understanding or tolerant of your lover in your marriage, your marriage will develop in a good direction.
When a person is young, love relies on passion and impulse; when a person reaches middle age, love relies on understanding and tolerance;
Because no one is anyone’s shadow, So there will be some misunderstandings and imbalances in the marriage. You will find that the couple is still the same couple.
I hope all middle-aged couples can be more calm and less impetuous when facing their lovers.
