Now is a fast-paced era. From national development to personal progress, everyone expects the process to be faster. But in the relationship between the sexes, it's just the opposite. After all, in the real world, it's not just a few actions that can turn a person who has no feelings into each other into you and me.
The so-called barbarism is our belief in making something happen from scratch. To be more precise, it is the process by which we change ourselves to be good enough to attract her in order to gain love.
In most cases, we are accustomed to aiming high and always misuse the term "lasting" for things that are currently out of reach.
Just like, we will let ourselves fall into the misunderstanding of "be nice to her", and then continue in the misunderstanding indefinitely.
I think that as long as we care enough about her, this thing can be done. As everyone knows, "treating her well" also has a prerequisite.
The premise is that we must have the ability to be good to her.
The fact is that many people often hold the insistence on "being good to her" very high, but the improvement of self-ability is very low.
By repeating the cycle, you turn yourself into a licking dog that you cannot love and cannot reach.
In fact, compared with the temporarily untouchable thing of "being good to her", it is more important to make yourself better in a down-to-earth manner.
As the saying goes, the cheapest thing in the world is the gentleness of a man who accomplishes nothing. If you think about it carefully, it makes sense.
Sometimes, when we think we are deeply in love, we are just clowns that the other person avoids.
Love that is so humble to the core is really unnecessary. Not only will this fail to impress the other party, it will also fail to fulfill oneself.
The only thing that can be gained is that he sinks deeper and deeper and gets further and further away from her.
I know that even so, there will always be people who will hold on to the belief that they will fight to the death. They will not look back until they hit the wall. Even if they hit the wall, they will still stand firm and shout: I am willing to be good to her.
Knowing that there is no result, but still suffering from love, is such a long-term worth it? Everyone has their own answer.
But what has to be said is that the era of "good women are afraid of pestering men" has long been replaced by "good men are pestered by women".
As for things that should last, we easily ignore them.
For example, make yourself better so that you have the ability to give happiness to others.
It keeps appearing in the list of times when we have indirect ambitions, lingering in the stages of "thinking" and "doing", but never actually completing it.
In fact, when you complain that this society is too realistic and girls worship money too much,You also know that you are not good enough.
Then, from time to time, you will take out your mobile phone to look up questions such as "how to find a girlfriend", "how to become rich" and so on.
I want to use some "shortcuts" to solve the problem of not having a girlfriend.
But at this time, you seem to have forgotten that many things cannot be done "quickly". They need to settle slowly and last for a long time to achieve results.
As we said before, there are girls who are willing to wait for you to change from "wanting to do good for her" to "being able to do good for her."
Before that, you need to calm down and change yourself for the better. When this thing is done, you will have no shortage of people to pester you.
Remember, they will like you if you go slower.
