Marriage is actually a continuation of love, but many people do not continue their relationship after entering marriage, but go further and further until the marriage breaks down. In fact, there will be some signs before the marriage breaks down. If you can detect it in time, you may be able to save the marriage. Here are 6 signs of marriage breakdown. Be careful when these signs appear.
1. Both sides feel disappointed
In fact, men and women who are not as good as in the marriage hall actually have expectations for love when they get married. But conflicts will gradually arise in the relationship after marriage, and you will be disappointed in each other again and again. ——These things may not be big things. It may be that you forgot your wife’s birthday, it may be that you are arguing over who is going to wash the dishes, it may be that your lifestyle is too sloppy for your wife to accept, it may be that she thinks you are not acceptable due to financial reasons. Not paying enough... When expectations are dashed and disappointments accumulate, the marriage slowly begins to crack.
2. Inability to understand each other
In fact, the reason why you can understand each other when you are in love is because you only It is enough to understand each other, but marriage is not. Marriage must not only understand each other, but also understand each other's family problems, such as conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, such as which parent's house to spend the holidays, such as how much money to give to each other's elders, such as taking care of children in one's hometown. Some parenting conflicts that arise... these require two people to coordinate. As long as the problem is not resolved for too many times, no matter how good the relationship between the couple is, the marriage will begin to break down. After all, a marriage is not only two people, but also two families.
3. Start to care about gains and losses
Two people in a normal marriage should pay in both directions. For example, the man is the leader outside and the woman is the leader inside. Everyone cooperates with each other and neither of them minds what the other says. What was done. But if one day you find that you start to compare, if you do more and she does less, you will start to care about gains and losses, and you should be alert to whether your marriage is beginning to break down. Because relationships actually require two people to operate, rather than relying on one party's one-way dedication.
4. More quarrels
In fact, it is okay for couples or lovers to quarrel occasionally. Yes, but if there are more quarrels, it may be a relationship problem. Because quarreling not only consumes the patience of two people, but also consumes a relationship. Whether it is a relationship or a marriage, once the quarrels increase, the final result is that the relationship will break up after fighting for it.
5. Lack of understanding
In fact, sometimes marriages break up not because of external reasons, nor because of a change of heart or having a mistress, but because of a lack of understanding between each other. For example, the wife feels that her husband is busy working all day long and ignores her inner feelings. The husband also feels that he has been wronged. He has been working hard for his family, but when he returns home, he still has to be unreasonably harassed by his wife.. Without understanding, marriages naturally break down.
6. Disharmony in married life
As the saying goes, a fight at the head of the bed ends with a fight at the end of the bed. This is not true. It makes sense, because sex is the basis of love and the most passionate way to express love. But if the life of a couple is not harmonious, it means that there is something wrong with this love. If each other is not satisfied with each other's body, or both parties are tired of each other's body, then the marriage will enter a dangerous period.
