When a girlfriend and her mother have a quarrel, how should a boyfriend handle the situation? This is a very delicate question because there are two important female characters involved. In this situation, we need to stay calm, sensible and respectful and look for ways to solve the problem.
1. Understand the positions of both parties
We need to understand the positions of both parties. Mothers are elders and have special emotions and expectations for girlfriends; girlfriends are the partners we choose to spend our lives with. We should respect and understand their opinions and feelings.
For example, if the argument is about the distribution of family responsibilities, the mother may want her girlfriend to take on more responsibility, while the girlfriend may think she is doing enough. We can try to think from both sides' perspectives and find a balance.
2. Remain neutral
As boyfriends, we should remain neutral and not take sides. We must not allow ourselves to be part of the quarrel, but act as mediators.
We can achieve neutrality by listening to both sides’ perspectives and opinions. We should give both sides enough time and space to express their ideas without interrupting or favoring one side.
3. Look for common ground
In an argument, we can look for common ground between both parties and try to shift the focus from the differences to the common ground.
For example, if the argument is about holiday plans, the mother may want her girlfriend to spend time with the family, while the girlfriend may want to spend it with her boyfriend. We could come up with a compromise, like spending some time with the family and then spending the rest of the time with my girlfriend.
4. Provide solutions
As boyfriends, we can try to provide some solutions to help both parties reach a consensus.
For example, on the issue of family responsibilities distribution, we can recommend formulating a clear plan to reasonably distribute responsibilities to everyone. This can not only satisfy the mother's expectations for family responsibilities, but also make the girlfriend feel fair.
5. Stay calm
Most importantly, stay calm when dealing with an argument between your girlfriend and your mother. Being emotional will only intensify the argument rather than solve the problem.
We can stay calm by breathing deeply, thinking calmly, and controlling our emotions. If you find that you can't stay calm, you can temporarily step away from the argument and give yourself some time to calm down.
6. Keep communicating
We should keep communicating and maintain good communication channels with our girlfriends and mothers.
We can communicate with our girlfriends and mothers regularly to understand each other’s thoughts and feelings. This will prevent problems from building up and leading to bigger arguments.
When dealing with the quarrel between our girlfriend and our mother, we need to understand the positions of both parties,Stay neutral, look for common ground, offer solutions, stay calm and keep communicating. Only in this way can we effectively handle the situation and maintain the relationship with our girlfriend and mother.
