For boys, is the more times you fall in love, the better? This is a question in the minds of many boys.
In fact, to put it bluntly, it is of no use for boys to have many relationships, especially those who are young and have had more relationships than others of the same age. Such people can only show that every relationship does not last long, or even lasts very poorly.
For example, in the same four years of college, some people may have only had two girlfriends in total, one for half a year and one for two years. ; But some people can have seven or eight girlfriends in four years of college. Excluding the window period between each two relationships, each relationship can last for a frighteningly short time.
The frequency of changing partners so frequently can only mean that either you were just a playboy from the beginning and never thought about falling in love; or this person did not learn the lesson from every failed relationship, and then Repeating the same mistakes again and again.
So you really can’t tell anything by just looking at the number of times. On the contrary, too many times will show that this person’s ability to maintain long-term relationships is astonishingly poor.
The number of times you fall in love cannot explain the problem, but the quality of the relationship can explain the problem.
In my opinion, a truly high-quality love is nothing more than three situations:
1. This relationship is very happy. Although there may not be a result in the end, at least in this relationship you know what kind of person you like and what kind of person you are suitable to be with.
2. This This relationship is very bad, leaving you with a lot of hurt, letting you know clearly what kind of people will hurt you, and how you need to protect yourself
3. This relationship finally has a person As a result, the two of you got married together and gave each other a final destination
In my opinion, this is a meaningful love: either you leave very beautiful memories, or you Leave a heart-wrenching lesson, or give your relationship a justifiable outcome.
Even if you fall in love for more than a dozen times, in the end you don’t know what type of person you like, you don’t learn any lessons, and your precious time is spent in love again and again. It's wasted, and along with it are your own feelings.
This kind of love is really meaningless to me, and there is no use in falling in love too many times.
When we start a relationship casually, we will think "Oh, it doesn't matter, it's just trial and error anyway. Anyway, just treat it as accumulating experience”——But we never thought that this kind of relationship would not accumulate any experience at all and would also waste our time.
And people who have more love experience may not really know so many truths than others: because all experiences and lessons are gained from whole-hearted devotion, the feeling of total devotion. , whether you gain a rare true love or a heart-wrenching lesson in the end, this person's memory will follow you in the end.
I found a random partner, got along casually for a few months, and then broke up. I had no investment or dedication in the relationship, so I couldn’t accumulate much experience in this situation.
Although I have always said, "If you like it, you should take the initiative and boldly pursue it." However, I very much reject the casual love model: because that kind of love has no meaning other than finding you a companion. If you If you really lack company, making a few more friends would be better than this.
Cherish your feelings and emotions, and don’t waste them on unworthy people: otherwise, you will only gain the experience of love, and you will not gain any experience.
