Chatting with straight men is the most boring way for girls to chat. Many boys who are inexperienced in dating often fall into straight man mode unknowingly while chatting, and end up chatting away from girls.
Next, I will tell you what straight male chatting is. These wrong chatting patterns are very lethal and can easily drive away a girl who likes you. You must understand it.
1. Suppress girls to improve themselves
Some men want to impress girls To show one's own value and status, one often improves oneself by denying girls. As everyone knows, this is the most typical straight male chat.
For example:
"Your idea is too naive. Let me tell you, I have studied XX for at least ten years, and I know a lot more than you."
< p> "Although what you said is logically correct, the reality is that my monthly income is 100,000 yuan and you only have a few thousand, so everyone will definitely think that what I said is more reasonable."These words The girl really wanted to throw her phone to the ground immediately after seeing this. To communicate with the girl in this way, which is similar to how a senior teaches a junior, is equivalent to crushing and attacking her in all aspects. For a girl who has a sense of independence, no matter what stage of relationship she is with you, it will be difficult for her to accept a man denying her own worthiness.
If you want to show your abilities and status to girls, you should mainly share your work and daily activities. Don't take her against yourself, and don't use suppressing girls to boost your authority as a way to show your value.
For example, if you say the words in the previous example, girls will feel much more comfortable if you say them in another way.
“From practical experience, your idea is not perfect enough.”
“Actually, what you said is very right, but dear, others may not feel comfortable hearing these words. , then when you are not strong enough, others will not be willing to believe you.”
This way of speaking is to analyze the problem from a girl’s perspective, rather than to prove you by suppressing her. Correctness and strength are the manifestations of non-straight men with high emotional intelligence.
2. Excessive self-esteem
The biggest characteristic of straight male cancer is excessiveness Self, and excessive self has several different manifestations:
Some boys only care about their own feelings and ignore girls’ feelings.
For example, when chatting, you only talk about content you like. You like to talk about games. , girls like to talk about movies. When chatting, you always talk about games.When a girl talks about movies, change the subject.
Maybe you are not interested in the topics initiated by girls, but when girls talk, being a qualified listener is also a way of communication. If you only talk about topics that you like and not topics that girls like, after a few times, the girl will find that she has no common language with you, and then she will lose interest in continuing to chat with you.
When a girl talks about a topic that you are not interested in or don’t understand, you may not know how to answer her, but be a listener, listen carefully to what the girl says, and occasionally interact with her, then you It gives the girl the feeling that although you don't understand much, you are very willing to listen to her, so that the girl has the motivation to continue chatting with you.
Some people have too limited thinking.
For example, they like to make brain-based guesses and make random assumptions about girls’ status and thoughts based on a little bit of information.
“You haven’t had breakfast so late? You’re sleeping in again, right?”
Many boys will make this mistake. After a girl says something, they blurt out a self-righteous thought. Supplementary content.
In fact, there are many possibilities for girls to skip breakfast, because they have no time to take care of it, or even simply because they don’t want to eat it? For example, she It was a blood test in the hospital. I got up early in the morning and couldn't eat breakfast. I was hungry and sleepy. I was already feeling very uncomfortable. At this time, the boy suddenly sent a message:
"Good morning. Have you had breakfast?"
"Not yet."
"You haven't had breakfast so late? You're sleeping in again, right?"
In the heart of a girl. : I am sleepy and hungry, and you actually said that I slept in. There is something in my heart that I don’t know whether to say or not.
Therefore, boys randomly speculate on some possibilities and say what girls are like, which can really make people crazy sometimes.
If you really don’t know what to say and need to brainstorm some content to find a topic, then you should do it from a girl’s perspective.
You can think of some compliments, caring words, etc. that can bring her closer to the relationship, and use less assertive statements.
"What happened if you haven't had breakfast so late?" This sentence made the girl feel much more comfortable.
3. Endless
This is not just a cancer for straight men Almost all patients will commit the disease, and the fatality rate is also quite high.
Many people find that when they are chatting with a girl on a particular topic, they can't control their excitement and excitement, and keep pestering her to chat non-stop. But people are not incorrigible. No matter how pleasant the conversation is, girls will feel uncomfortable if they keep chatting. Chatting for too long can make peopleOnce a girl enters the tired state, no matter how interesting the topic is or how enthusiastic you are about chatting with her, she will find it boring.
Especially when girls have said many times that they want to go to bed and talk tomorrow, but boys say: "Don't say goodbye now. Anyway, you won't go to work tomorrow, so you can chat with me for a while." This kind of forcefully pulls people to accompany you. The way they talk is particularly irritating.
And you have to know that if a girl doesn’t like you, if you keep talking to her, she will just choose not to reply to the message and throw you aside. If a girl is willing to tell you to stop chatting first, it means that she is a good girl who cares about your feelings and does not want to embarrass you by leaving. So as a boy, not only do you not show consideration to her, but you also ignore her feelings, which is a very inappropriate behavior.
In short, these straight male chats are due to boys not putting themselves in girls' shoes, making girls feel disrespected, so they usually follow When communicating with girls, you must remember to consider the girl's feelings when talking to get rid of the straight man chat and make her like you more and more.
