It is normal to be rejected when chasing girls. After all, the ratio of men to women is now imbalanced, and girls have more opportunities to choose. But if you keep getting rejected after chasing girls, this is a question worth thinking about.
Why are you always rejected when chasing girls?
1. Don’t dare to try.
Many people have this mentality, that is, when we walk on the street and meet a girl we like, we don’t dare to say hello. When we meet a girl with higher qualifications than ourselves, we feel that others must look down on us. When you encounter a better boy than yourself pursuing the girl you like, you will feel inferior.
In fact, if we analyze it, this is the fear of rejection. We are afraid that girls will reject us, so we don’t have to fall in love, but in the end, we still have to get to this point.
"This girl is so tall, she must look down on me~"
"There are so many boys chasing her, I better not waste my efforts~"
You have a lot of inner drama. You are not afraid of thousands of troops, you are just afraid of surrendering yourself.
There is a popular saying a long time ago, if you take the initiative, we will have a story. Yes, we will also be nervous when we strike up a conversation. , this is normal, but we must take this proactive first step. Master Su Hen said in "The Single Deer" that we regret for a second. We only need to step forward and say hello to the girl before we regret it. But at this time, whether you can get the girl’s WeChat account or not, you have succeeded.
Don’t set limits for yourself and don’t think you can’t do anything. When you muster up the courage to take the first step, the story behind will be more exciting.
2. Being too conceited
Being too conceited means overestimating oneself. Human self-awareness mainly includes three aspects: self-cognition, self-will and self-emotional experience. When someone overestimates himself, it will appear as arrogance, and when someone underestimates himself, it will appear as arrogance.
Conceit and inferiority sometimes go hand in hand.
Feel it, naked and vivid. This kind of person always makes girls feel particularly disgusted. Mental immaturity is also a sign of childishness.
“I am a college student and she is a high school graduate. She is not good enough for me.”
“I have no job and no money. If my girlfriend is like this, we can’t be together for a long time.” ", so I can only find a rich woman"
Generally, this kind of people are mostly straight men, who loveLove is often particularly difficult to maintain. Not only are girls disgusted, but boys are also disliked.
3. Lazy thinking
There are some brothers who always postpone today to tomorrow and tomorrow to the day after tomorrow. Lazy thinking will make your work, life, and family a mess.
I know that it will be much better if I dress up well, I know that I can get to know a girl just by saying a word, and I know that I can date a girl by spending more time. But if you don’t do it, lazy thinking is as harmful as drugs.
If you have problems in this area, it is recommended to make changes immediately and set a small goal for yourself, for example: spend some time to sort out your hairstyle and choose an outfit before going out today. Inertia is not formed in a day, so change is bound to be very difficult.
We have a student who used to play games every day when he returned home, so we set a constraint for him. Every time he wants to turn on the computer to play games, he should clean up his room. It doesn’t take too much time and he doesn’t have to clean it up. Done, five minutes is just right. Over time, you will naturally get used to it and won’t think about playing games anymore.
