When it comes to coaxing girls and comforting angry girls, everyone’s first reaction is to never be reasonable, otherwise it will only make things worse. Then do you know why you can't reason with girls? If you reason with a girl, what bad consequences will there be? The following is a detailed analysis for everyone.
Why can’t you reason with girls?
Since it is coaxing, it must be completely contrary to reasoning. Whether you coax a child or a girl, you are using a flattering way to calm the other person's emotions. This is not a rational process in itself, but an emotional process. Through the transmission of good emotions, the effect of solving problems is achieved. In essence, it is completely opposite to the purely rational thinking method of solving problems.
When a child falls, you can coax him not to feel any pain. In fact, he is in pain. But if you coax him, you will take him to buy snacks and you will say a lot of words of comfort and encouragement to him. The low mood originally caused by the pain was relieved, thus suppressing the negative emotions psychologically.
We all know that many times, physical pain is no match for psychological pain, so coaxing is to make your mind less uncomfortable. .
At the same time, when you coax a girl, the girl also has some choices whether to accept it or not. If the girl accepts your coaxing, then your coaxing will be effective. If the girl does not accept it, then your coaxing will be in vain.
So when you coax a girl, if the girl accepts your coaxing, then her psychology will make preparations to gradually digest the negative emotions. This psychological process is purely emotional. In other words, if you coax a girl and the girl accepts your coaxing, you should coax her well. It is best not to try to interrupt the rhythm of the whole emotional comfort by trying to insert rational reasoning.
A girl who is being coaxed has the intention to refuse to be coaxed at any time. Even if she starts to accept your coaxing, but you are too clumsy to coax her, she will still refuse in the middle and the problem will not be solved. In principle, if you want to coax, then just do it purely. First, you can coax the other person's emotions, and then you can find an opportunity to reason rationally. This is the safest course.
I know that there is a kind of person who feels uncomfortable if he is unreasonable and insists on giving advice. There is also a kind of person who is more rigid and dull, who is not very good at coaxing and can only try to make girls respond by being reasonable. Come and get rid of the negative emotions to understand him. There are also those who are stubborn and only accept reason.
For the above three types of people, if you still want to get along well with girls, you'd better change. Don't continue like this, or you deserve to be single for the rest of your life.
Of course, I also have a compromise, which is to be polite first and then use force. If you really feel that you are aggrieved, and you are afraid that the girl will not be able to objectively understand the problem just by coaxing her, you should grasp the other person's emotional turning point.
After the girl’s mood has obviously changed in a positive way, explain the truth a little bit, mention it briefly, and briefly talk about it in one or two sentences. Don’t focus on it, and don’t talk endlessly at the beginning of your reasoning. . Some girls are in a good mood and are willing to listen to your reasoning. Some girls are only in a temporary state of coaxing. It will take a long time for them to calm down, and you may even have to coax them later. Some girls don’t want to listen to you even if they are in a good mood. To be reasonable, she finally got better, but as soon as you reasoned, she got angry again.
If you really want to be reasonable, you'd better be different from person to person, and grasp the right level, and it's not impossible to tell the truth.
