It seems that boys paying money has become a default unspoken rule in the relationship between men and women, but it is not a normal thing if boys keep paying.
No matter how rich the boy is, no matter how much he loves the girl, he must not bear the expenses of dating alone. Don't think that spending money on her means you love her. Spending too much money on her will only ruin your relationship in the end.
When a boy is chasing a girl, or after establishing a relationship, it is completely okay for a boy to pay for the first few times. After all, he likes a girl. Doing something and paying something for this person is a way to express sincerity.
But if a girl happily accepts your efforts but won't invite you back, then things will start to go wrong. She may very well think that your efforts are deserved.
So, even if those expenses may really be nothing to you, if this girl keeps asking you to pay unilaterally, I still advise you to be cautious.
People who don’t know how to repay, take everything for granted, and have no sense of gratitude will make you feel cold one day in the future.
There is another situation: originally she knew that it was not easy for you and knew how to be considerate, but gradually your continuous unilateral efforts made her accustomed to all this, and she began to feel that it was all for you. Your obligations.
Once you unilaterally take care of everything without asking for anything in return, then the other party will subconsciously think that this is what you should do. Once one day you fail to do it, she will have unreasonable feelings. of blame.
It is a common problem for people to be arrogant and arrogant. Whether it is material or emotional without asking for anything in return, there will be no good end. .
Not everyone is Wang Sicong. For most people, the total expenses incurred in a relationship between men and women are not a small amount, and will take up a lot of funds that they would otherwise use elsewhere.
You say you are wishful thinking, but have you ever thought that this wishful thinking may destroy yourself.
At worst, what if that girl breaks up with you one day. What do you think you have left?
Not only did you have nothing left, you also invested all the money that should have been spent elsewhere on her.
I could have bought some good clothes to enhance my image and improve my taste. I could have learned a few useful skills. I could have spent on favors and made a few more useful friends. I could have spent on favors and made a few more useful friends. You can send it to your parents so they can buy some good things.
But you didn’t do that. You gave it all to her. You gave it to someone who is not sure whether he will be by your side in the future.
Whether it’s improving your image, learning skills, making friends, showing filial pietyParents, the good things left behind are all yours, but you can’t quite figure them out.
Yes, it does sound selfish, but we are not saints. Saints have the feeling of sacrificing themselves to help others. We do not. , we don’t have to.
Don’t talk about wishful thinking without asking for anything in return. How can you not ask for anything in return? How rich do you think you are? How capable do you think you are?
Improve yourself first, Taking good care of your family and finally letting the people around you prosper with you are the true responsibilities and responsibilities that a man should have.
So, when you think about paying for all her expenses next time, ask yourself: It’s all given to others, what about you?
Men and women are all human beings, there is no It is the obligation to be a saint to others. Everyone hopes that their sincerity will be respected and not taken advantage of. So how to guide girls to pay and invest? Add and let me tell you.
