Girls are not attracted by chasing, but by attracting, so if you like a girl, instead of trying your best to chase her, it is better to think about how to become a boy who is popular with girls and attract the girl you like. Below, the editor will teach you 3 tips to help you become a boy popular with girls.
1. From a girl’s perspective
There is a big difference in the thinking of men and women. Therefore, if you want to get along happily with girls and become someone they like, you must be good at starting from their perspective. Take chatting as an example:
"I have taken a fancy to a pair of sneakers from the Internet. Can you help me look at them?" Let’s see which color is better.”
“I haven’t had steak for a long time. Do you have a favorite restaurant?”
“I went to the desert last week. The scenery was very nice. The photos are beautiful, you will definitely like them.”
“I am shocked by other people’s Tibet hiking videos every day. I must go there once in my life. How do you feel about Tibet?”
< p> Think more about what she cares about from a girl’s perspective, ask her for her suggestions and opinions, and satisfy the girl’s vanity of wanting to be respected and cared about. Wouldn’t this naturally connect you two?< p> Don’t look at it as asking her opinion, but you actually have control over the topic. Have you learned?2. Know how to extend the topic
Not being able to chat is a common problem among many boys. If you have nothing to talk about, how can you get to know a girl and make her like you?
In fact, it is not that difficult to make Tianer chat longer and talk about more topics. You can start by looking for common ground. For example:
Female: I went to Shanghai last week, and it was indeed full of fashion.
Male: Really? Where have you been?
Female: I went shopping on the Bund with my friends.
Male: I’ve been there before. There are so many people on the Bund. The queues stretch for several streets. It’s really spectacular.
Female: Haha, yes, I was shocked when I saw it. It was really a dilemma.
Male: But after coming out of the Bund, the snacks in People’s Square are quite good. Have you eaten it? How do you feel? (Change the topic in a timely manner to avoid chatting to death.)
In fact, everyone has a common psychology, that is, when others talk to us about shared experiences, we feel inexplicably cordial, and then we have a lot to say.
Not only that, this method can also allow the other person to find your common hobbies or experiences, and unconsciously the distance will become closer.
3.Improve one's emotional value
There are some people with whom you can chat for a long time even if there is nothing serious, and you can be very happy even if there is nothing serious. There's no specific reason, it just seems to be relaxing.
I think this is a kind of charm, because not everyone can give people this feeling, and this kind of people are often particularly attractive. And if you want to become such a person, you need to learn to increase your emotional value. So what exactly should you do?
(1) Relax. Nervousness can always greatly reduce our ability. We can express 100 points, but when we are nervous, we can only express 80 points.
What’s even worse is that when you get nervous, the entire chat atmosphere will become tense. You will feel uncomfortable, and the girls will feel even more uncomfortable. This will reduce points.
So, just treat her as an ordinary friend, be generous and say whatever you need to say.
If you are really nervous, just say it directly: "I haven't seen you for a long time. You are so beautiful today, which makes me a little nervous."
The girl laughed, this The atmosphere gradually relaxed. After you say this, you actually feel less nervous.
(2) Make the topic life-oriented. There was a boy who I had known for less than a month. We met him maybe two or three times, and he told me where his family was. He bought a house for his family, a car for himself, and so on. I will. . . Hmm? What does it have to do with me?
We just met. What do you mean by this? Even if you want to find someone to marry, there is no need to be so anxious and obvious, right?
< p> It is really easy to get embarrassed when talking about such a huge topic when you are not very familiar with it. Just talk about family affairs, hobbies, and travel experiences, wouldn’t it?The more life-oriented the topic, the easier your chat will be.
(3) Interspersed with a little humor. As for why I suggest you guys to save some jokes, jokes, and earthy love stories, don’t say earthy love stories that are too greasy. Why do you two eat and watch movies together? Is it to make friends?</ p>
No, you are looking for your girlfriend’s brother.
Besides, who doesn’t know that earthy love words are just a joke? After all, no one in life would say such disgusting and sweet words.
But as an atmosphere modifier, it is still very good. Wouldn't it be nice to occasionally intersperse a little humor to liven up your chat and brighten your image?
