I think everyone hopes that when they fall in love, they can be long-lasting and go all the way to the end. However, many times, after lovers taste the ups and downs of love, they can no longer hold on and choose to give up. In fact, I want to say that if you persist a little longer, maybe it will finally come to an end. Today, the editor has brought you a trick to warm up your relationship. Let’s take a look.
1. Self-disclosure and intimacy
Self-disclosure is one of the characteristics that defines an intimate relationship: if Two people cannot be considered intimate without sharing some personal, relatively private information. Research shows that the more self-disclosure a couple makes, the closer they feel and the happier they are as a couple.
2. What is self-disclosure
Self-disclosure is different from ordinary small talk, such questions as "Where are you from?", "What major did you major in university?" They are all superficial issues.
Psychologists consider self-disclosure to include our relationships, privacy, important life moments, traumatic experiences, etc. Self-disclosure requires:
1. Talk about your own affairs, not other people’s affairs. The topic of the chat is not "My colleague..." or "My classmate...", but "I...";
2. Content of the conversation It involves more personal emotions than a simple description of events. For example, self-disclosure should be "It's really painful for me to go to work every day, and my boss scolds me again" rather than "I met a kitten on my way to work today."
3. What should you do when your lover makes self-disclosure
What you need to do most Listen, rather than trying to convince him/her of your point of view. You should ask more open-ended questions to focus on their feelings rather than judging them.
1. You should do this
Lover: Baby, I want to resign recently and don’t want to continue working in my current company.
You: What’s wrong?
2. You shouldn’t do this:
Lover: Baby, I want to resign recently and don’t want to continue in my current company. Keep doing it.
You: You have to persist, persistence is victory. Think about it, it’s the same wherever you go. It’s inevitable that you’ll be unhappy, right...
Finally, if you want to take your relationship further, try self-disclosure Well, it must be right.
