I don’t know how many boys fall out with their girlfriends who are talking about marriage because of the bride price. Many times we can’t help but wonder, are there no girls who don’t want the bride price? Will a girl’s marriage really be unhappy if she doesn’t want a bride price? Let’s discuss this issue for everyone:
What about girls who don’t want betrothal gifts?
Many girls like to link “asking for betrothal gifts” with “whether they will be happy or not in the future.” I think if a bride price is required, then the man will cherish you after spending the money. If you don’t ask for a bride price and you’re paying for it, the man won’t appreciate it. This is a typical causal error. Whether you live well after marriage does not depend on whether you want a bride price, but on the virtues of the person you choose.
Let me give you a thorough explanation:
1. One is that the man’s family is sensible and polite.
If a girl doesn’t want a bride price, he will think it’s not appropriate. At least he has to respect the other party according to the customs. At the same time, you will feel in your heart that you are considerate of him, and he will treat you better in the future. And all this is for a better life for the small family in the future.
But if you ask for a large betrothal gift and don’t take it back to Xiaojia, then he may think that you are at risk of supporting your younger brother, and he will re-evaluate your relationship and whether it is necessary to stop the loss in time.
2. The other type is that the man’s family is ignorant and does not understand etiquette.
This kind of people often like to take advantage, and if they don’t pick up something when they go out, it will be lost. If a girl doesn’t ask for a bride price, he will think you are being disrespectful and contemptuous, and he will also think that he has the ability to marry a wife for free. Naturally I won’t respect you in the future.
But do you think this kind of family will cherish you if you ask for a betrothal gift, or even a large betrothal gift? Dream on. They will only think that they bought you at a huge price, and this cost will be earned back on you in the end, and they will only squeeze you even harder after marriage.
And if you ask for a large amount of betrothal gift and give it directly to your natal family, your natal family will also think that you are overpriced. When you have a conflict with your in-laws, they will even take their side and persuade you to tolerate it. After all, if you can't bear it, what will you do if your in-laws come and ask for a refund?
Do you understand? Whether a girl lives happily after marriage depends on the person she finds, not whether she wants a bride price. The person you choose is good, and he will cherish you whether you want a betrothal gift or not, but if the price is too high, he may run away. If the person you choose is not good, he will torment you whether you want a betrothal gift or not. The difference is which one is more miserable.
And all the couples I came into contact with who broke up because of the bride price were all high-priced, had younger brothers, and didn’t bring them back. Note, it’s “all of them.” As for those around me who brought the betrothal gifts back to the family as starting capital for the two of them's new life, there was never any conflict over the betrothal gifts. They were all done according to one's ability and after discussion.
