Fighting is an inevitable problem that couples will encounter, and the cold period after a quarrel is even more disturbing. At this time, how can you chat with your girlfriend again and relieve the awkward and tense atmosphere? Some suggestions are given below.
1. Calm down
The cool period after a quarrel is often accompanied by emotional fluctuations on both sides. The most important thing at this time is to calm down. Don't rush to communicate with your girlfriend, because it's easy to say hurtful words when you're emotional. Find a quiet place to relax and calm down.
2. Reflect on yourself
After calming down, reflect on your words and deeds during the quarrel. Think back to the scene and what you said at the time, and see if there was anything extreme or inappropriate. If so, you should apologize to your girlfriend promptly and express your sincerity and willingness to correct your mistakes.
3. Give the other party some time
After an argument, both parties need some time to calm down and think. Don't rush to communicate with your girlfriend, give the other person some time and space to calm down. This time can be used to reflect on your own problems, and it also gives your girlfriend a chance to think and organize her thoughts.
4. Take the initiative to find an opportunity
After both parties have calmed down, they can take the initiative to find an opportunity to start chatting again. You can choose an appropriate time, such as while eating, taking a walk, or watching a movie, to break the awkward and tense atmosphere with some relaxing topics.
5. Express concern and understanding
In the process of restarting the chat, express concern and understanding to your girlfriend. You can ask about her recent living situation and care about her work, study or family. At the same time, show your understanding and support for her and let her feel your care and warmth.
6. Avoid talking about the past
When you start chatting again, you should avoid talking about the reason for the quarrel and what happened in the past. The past is past, what matters is how to improve the present situation. If your girlfriend brings up things from the past, you can tell her tactfully that now is the time for us to start over and hope that we can work together to improve the relationship.
7. Listen to the other person’s thoughts
During the chat, pay attention to listening to your girlfriend’s thoughts and feelings. Don't just talk about yourself and ignore the other person's opinions. Respect the other person's point of view and give positive responses and feedback. This can increase mutual understanding and trust.
8. Find common interests
In order to relieve the tension after a quarrel, you can find some common interests and hobbies to communicate with. For example, watch movies, go shopping, cook or exercise together. By participating in activities that you enjoy together, you can enhance your relationship and intimacy with each other.
9. Be honest
Be honest and truthful during the chat. Don't hide your thoughts and feelings, and don't hide your emotions. Only by being honest with each other can true trust and intimacy be built.
10. Seek solutions
Finally, during the chat, you can seek solutions to the problem. Work together to find the cause of the quarrel and come up with a solution. This can prevent similar problems from happening again, and can also enhance mutual understanding and trust.
The cold period after a quarrel is a hurdle in a couple's relationship, but as long as both parties communicate and understand attentively, they can re-establish a good relationship. Hope the above suggestions are helpful to you.
