When many boys are chasing a girl, they think that if they try their best to be nice to her, she will be moved. In the end, the girl will have no reason not to be with him. But in fact, not only will such a pursuit not allow you to chase her, it will also cause these two problems:
1. "Continuously moving a person" will inevitably consume a huge amount of financial resources and energy. Once you If you don't do it well in the later stage, it will be easy for girls to think "you have changed."
2. The low-profile pursuit mode is often thankless and laborious. Even the more you don’t get it, the easier it is for you to be humble and kneel down.
The reason why you will always turn into a bitch when chasing girls is simply because your "availability" is too strong.
To give a simple example, a person sells products to you and takes the trouble to pester you with discounts and promotions. On the contrary, you will feel that "this product cannot be sold, that's why you work so hard."
In the end, the more he tries to please you, the less likely you will be attracted to this product, and you may even feel an inexplicable resistance.
But a product itself is of high value, and people around it are rushing to buy it. Even if the salesperson doesn’t say a word, people are willing to come forward and join in the fun. The more popular the item, the more It is easy to give people the concept of "if you don't sell, you will lose."
The same goes for chasing girls.
The higher the availability of your exposure: you can return to someone’s house within 24 hours, the less willing girls will be to take the initiative with you. The more you go up the pole to post, the more girls are willing to "shop around."
So, you have to understand one truth: to attract a girl, you don’t just follow her behind and tell her “how much I like you”, but the most important thing to consider is “how to win her love.” ".
Three parts of ambiguity and seven parts of mystery are the best ways to attract girls.
Men who have things to do and ideals to pursue are often more favored by girls. Don't always find a girl to chat with. If she has high enthusiasm and feedback, just chat more. When the conversation gets to a high point, show your value and leave.
Don’t say everything before you get together, and leave yourself some room for mystery. Let girls take the initiative to explore your life, which is far more effective than if you completely withdraw from it.
Just like a good-looking book, if you finish reading it in the library, if you just think "this book is okay, but I don't like it that much", then you will still spend money Should you buy it home?
In a sense, in the process of attracting a person, the lower your desire for this person, the higher your desire for yourself. This can actually Make you more attractive.
If you don’t reply to your message, there is no need to guard the phone.You have the time to improve your career and work hard to make money;
If you buy a gift and someone refuses it, there is no need to complain. You have the money to go to the gym to get in shape and improve your clothes;
People are hot and cold towards you and are unwilling to give you an answer. There is no need to question you. If you have the energy to attend some high-quality social activities, you can increase your knowledge...
When attracting a girl, you have to understand: How can you get her to like you?
Is it because of humility? Does it rely on pleasing people? No, the starting point for building a healthy intimate relationship is equality between both parties.
If she responds enthusiastically to you, then you can give her the same or even better enthusiastic feedback. On the contrary, if this person makes you unhappy, you have every right to treat him coldly and turn around and invest in yourself.
So, if you often use one method to pursue girls, and end up hitting the wall repeatedly and unable to escape the fate of being a dog-licker, then it is most likely that there is something wrong with your mentality, so don’t go on your own way.
In an intimate relationship, you must first level your attitude, constantly invest in yourself, and let girls see your value. Then they will be attracted to you and be willing to continue to upgrade with you. relation.
In short, if you want a girl to be interested in you, you must first become an interesting person, not an aggrieved licking dog who worries about gains and losses.
